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Will couseling help save marriage? What is the chance it does when it involves cops chasing me out the house? My wife seems determined to divorce me. I realize, it's better if we're together. Best for the baby. I love my baby. It came to the point where she called the cops to kick me out. If I request counseling, what is the chance that couseling can save our marriage? What is the chance she will go to counseling with me?

OOOOH YEEEEAH! What drastic measures have you taken in an attempt to save your marriage? I have resorted to doing disgusting things with my mouth such as desensitizing my gag reflex and all that it entails (i.e. gargling baby batter). What things have you done that you're not so proud of in your efforts to save marriage?

Wife had very strange affair. Possible to save marriage? I don't want to get into the details. I am heartbroken over this and am not sure if I can save my marriage. I have 2 children with this woman! She slept with a retarded man! I do not mean that as a slur, I mean she slept with a severly cognitively disabled person who works with her at Wal-Mart as a cart pusher. Is there coming back from this?

Marital dispute could destroy marriage. Will you please help to save marriage? My wife thinks that to make a PB & J sandwich the Peanut butter has to go on first and has to be on the "top" slice of bread while eating it. I think that the Jelly goes on first, and it should be on the "top" slice. Who's right?

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help save marriage, any tips for helping to save a marriage? I need help to save a marriage, I mean does anyone here have and hidden tips that work? I found a guide thats suppose to be the best at http://www.helpsavemarriagenow.blogspot.com but I want to try consuling first to help save my marriage. Any tips? Thanks

How do I save my marriage from my thinking false stuff is happening? I need help on how to save my marriage , I have cheated in my wife on the past , several times and now I always think something is going on that is not and it is pushing us apart. I don't have proof of anything wrong she has done just what I think she has done and She has about had it with me because of it. I dont know what to do ?

How can I save my marriage after I found that i am being cheated? I doubt that my husband is cheating me in my life.How can I save my marriage and how can I even talk to him again? How should i behave in this situation?

What can I do to save my marriage when my husband is an alcoholic? My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for seven years. I have tried for nearly four years to get him to get help for himself and lead a more sober life. This including a year of marriage counseling. I am moving out next week. I still love him but know I can no longer live with an alcoholic. Is there anything I can do to get him to get help for himself and hopefully save our marriage???

Do you think my friend is stupid for trying to save her marriage? Do you think my friend is stupid for trying to save her marriage? This is her third marriage, so she is really doesn't want to feel like she has failed again. She has been married eight years. Her husband is physically and mentally abusive, very controlling and possessive, and just not a nice person, but she loves him and wants more than anything to stay with him. She is trying to save her marriage by going to counseling for herself (because he won't go). I kinda feel like she is just being stupid about the whole thing.

How to save my marriage part two? I asked a question yesterday on how to save my marriage, most people told me talk to my husband , start counseling. Well to inform everyone I went to counseling myself yesterday as well as my husband and I signed up for marriage counseling which will start shortly. My husband enrolled in a anger management class given he believes he will need more help keeping his cool. So thank you to all who answered and if anyone has anything else that might help that would be great.

How can I save my marriage? My wife is planning on separating at the end of the month. We have been fighting so much and she now tells me she doesn't love me the way I need her to. We have three children together and I am still madly in love with her. We have agreed to stay together until the end of the month, but in her mind I think we are already separated. What can I do in the next few weeks to save my marriage - please help?!

How can i save my parents marriage? Well, my parents have been arguing ever since my mom got her new job. The only way i think to save their marriage is to make my mom quit her job. Can anybody give me tips on how to save it?What can i do?How can i make her quit? Please Help!!! By: Jose

How do I save My Marriage? Me and My husband Have been falling apart for about 6 mounths now, He dosent want to hug,me , kiss me, make love he also wont let me hold him at night anymore. He say he just wants to be left alone but it is breaking my heart. I feel lost someone give me some advise to help save our marriage, I love him so much and would do anything to save this marriage.

Any advice on How To Save A Marriage? I need to know how to save a marriage. My brother and my sister in law(his wife) are having real hard marriage problems right now. I don't think it's to the point were they are ready to divorce yet but if it continues down this path I think they are going to eventually get divorced. So, I wanted some good advice on how to save a marriage?

Doesit take one or two people to save the marriage? In my heart I know if my ex and I put our efforts we could save our marriage. Does it take 1 or 2 people to make it work? This may sound stupid but if anyone saw the movie "Fireproof" you would know where I'm coming from.

How Can I Save My Marriage While Remaining True To My Philanthropic Beliefs? I feel a moral responsibility to rescue men from their sexless marriages. I've always wanted to help other people. I am very compassionate. Even to the detriment of my own marriage, I will have sex with every needy man I can find. How can I reconcile my giving nature with my husband's desire to have me not screw other men?

How can i save my marriage? My wife and I had a threesome three days ago. It was her idea and she actively encouraged it. Afterwards she said that she didn't know what she thought of it. After acting like a total bitch since then. Today she blew up and told me that she wants a devoice because I fell asleep in the bed with the other woman. Is there anything I can do to save my marriage with the woman i love?

How to save my marriage-advice please? My marriage is insecure and you want to save it. I don’t want to fight and can’t see my husband having time with another woman.

How can I save my marriage when I withheld $ in a separate account? I don't want my marriage to end, but he is really hurt and feels he cannot trust me anymore...but I want him to let me earn it back.

How can I save my marriage from divorce? I'm in the middle of a breakup with my husband but I don't want this to happen. I want him to come back so badly, but he doesn't want to continue the marriage in the current way. I'm totally broken down when he left me yesterday. How can I prevent a divorce? I know I have taken many things for granted in the past, and I'm willing to change my attitude. In my heart I know that he still loves me. I just don’t know what I can do now to get him back.

If you wanted to save your marriage from an affair would you act like a loving spouse and ignore it? My husband has talked about reconciling our broken marriage for over 3yrs. He has yet to end affair with OW. During the first 2 years he cut off all intimacy then recently I let him into my bed. I am tired of sharing my husband. When I learned if affair I handled this situation in anger now I decided to be a loving wife with hopes of reconcile. Is this a better way of winning my husband back instead of being a nagging wife?

What should I do to save my marriage? My husband's mother and relatives are forcing him for divorce. If he stays with me then they will not talk to him. So, my husband wants to break this marraige. Husband and in-laws are behaving more and more cheap and crossing the limits of humanity. What should I do save my marraige. M staying with my parents.

I want to save my marriage. Is it wise of me to ignore the fact my husband still has a long term mistress? I don't want to give my husband up so should I just act as if I don't care about him having long term mistress? I still want my marriage to work. Its been over 2yrs since they've been together but, we have 15yrs and 4kids invested. Right now we are separated but, spend time with our children. I don't have sex with him just starting over like friends. When should I ask him to let her go - When he talk of reconcile?

what should be done to save our marriage? my husband is unfaithful due his fear of loneliness after our long-term marriage. how can i save our marriage and stop him from straying again?

How do I save my marriage, my husband just up and left me and said it's done it's only been 3 days is there ho? He said it was because he didn't trust me, we got married really young but have been together 6 years our marriage only lasted 1 year and 2 months can I still fix things?

Have any of you bought the Love Dare book and tried to use it to help save your marriage? My wife and I bought the book, now our marriage is going strong, but we felt, hey, it couldn't hurt to try it to make our marriage stronger. We got it after watching the movie Fireproof with Kirk Cameron.

What do i do to save my marriage from a husband that has a gambling problem? He says he has it under control but he will still over draw the checking account. He promises he won't do it again and he always does. He sits on the computer all the time and is never with his family. Of course he doesn't see it that way. He somehow always turns it around on me and it is my fault. Online gambling has ruined my life. I just don't know what to do anymore.

What are some good ways to save a marriage? My wife and I fight almost on a dailey basis....I still love her with all of my heart and the last thing that I want to do is get a divorce....wht are some good ways to stop this pointless fighting?

How do I save my marriage to a stroke survivor? Hubby had a stroke 1year ago at 57. Left side is affected... A little walking w/cane, no use of left arm. He is angry & rude to me a lot, and I do not know if I can take much more... I cannot support myself w/o his annuity, and he cannot live alone... Help!

How do I save my marriage with the help of God? Has anyone been here before? If so, I need your advice. My husband and I are on the verge of divorce. That is something I do not want, I want my family and for my husband to come back home. Does anyone know what to do/say? What scriptures to read? I don't want to make matters worse by my actions and I know with the help of God anything is possible. Please help and God bless!

How can I get my computer to save my marriage? Computers seem to know everything now days. Is there a way I can get it to make my husband into a super husband?

How can you help someone who is emotionally abusive get help and save a marriage? My wife of five years is emotionally abusive toward me. I do not think that she realizes it but she is. She all of a sudden wants a divorce because I make her feel empty inside. I know she loves me and I love her, but I don't know how to talk to her about getting help.

If my friend really wants to save her marriage, why does she do this? She has been married for 17 years. She feels like her husband neglects her and does not care about her as a person. She does not feel appreciated. She wants to go into marriage counseling but he refuses, and she feels very alone. Lately, to deal with the situation, she goes down to the local bar very late at night. Her husband knows and does not care, he's like, "Whatever." Do you think she is trying to make her husband notice her?

What does a women do when she wants to save her marriage? I love my husband and like all couples we may argue (maybe like 1 time a month) we have a wonderful child together, which we are a great team. He just feels like we don't fit together. We have been married a few years and I just can't see losing him over that.

How can I save my marriage when my husband & my daughter don't really have a relationship? She can be extremely rude at times but I think she is acting out. She feels he hates her and she is only 9 years old. We have been together since she was 2 : ( what do I do?

I want to save my marriage from divorce and don't want to go through a counsellor. Anything reliable out there? My partner and I have been going through a rough patch regarding trust. Basically I don't trst her which is a fault of mine just as much as hers. Someone came sniffing three years ago and we managed to get over the issue. But I am becoming convinced that he's back again. I think this can be resolved but I can't carry on with this coming up from time to time.

How will you save your marriage when you think you are failed as a wife? What will you do, I guess my husband has another affair. Maybe it is my fault-he did not get enough from me thats why he...made another affair>what to do now?

What other alternatives are there to save my marriage, especially considering that my husband has too..? stubborn to admit and go for outside help to improve our marriage? Please help me...

How do I save my marriage when I'm not the one causing the problems? My husband and I have been married for 4 months now and he's currently deployed. Lately, things have been a little rocky and he has threatened to divorce me because he thinks I'm having an affair. I've been a faithful, loyal and devoted wife to him and I don't understand how or why he would get that idea in his head. I love him so much and if I lose him over something I haven't even done, it will literally kill me. How do I prove to him that he's wrong?

Can marriage save my girlfriend's visa status? So I will try to make this concise. I want to marry this girl, but while she came here legally she overstayed by several years. J1 visa. From what I gather on a legal forum, overstay can be annulled by marriage to an american citizen. However, she is working, complete with a W2 filed and the SS she was issued, without USCIS authorization. How serious is this? Will she be in trouble when she files taxes for 2009? Can I still marry her and live openly in the US with her?

can counseling really save your marriage or waste of time and money? My husband and I have been married for a year but been together for almost 7yrs. Throughout it all he has cheated on me numerous times and i stay because of the obvious "LOVE". And of course its happening again but the huge difference is we are married and I took my vows to heart. Im clueless and heartbroken any advice.

I earn more money than my husband and I feel resentful towards him. How do I save my marriage? Only been married six months. We are both in our forties. I believed in him and his supposed "efforts" of bettering himself when we married, but, the rose-colored glasses are off now and I see that he has no ambition. However, he does most of the housework.

Can this save the marriage or damage it permanently? Marriage counseling...we have never gone (but have thought about going), but we're both afraid of talking about things we don't want to bring up like the past. Things that have hurt us tremendously. Afraid to bring up old problems just to leave the counselor's office, go home, and think about it all over again. So my question is, does marriage counseling really work?

what can i do to save my marriage ? i jealous too much. we have been married at least for 5 years.since my wife met his ex-boy friend my marriage started to fill a part.

How do you know when its time to hang up trying to save your marriage? I have been married for almost 8 years, there has been steady problems since the beginning. He always makes it out to be my fault cause he says I have a "bad attitude". Only I feel my attitude is because of how I am treated. Cheated on, lied too. I have 2 kids and I'm fed up I"m just not sure I could leave.

My husband left me and his kids at total random? Why or better yet, how can I save this marriage? This is so out of the blue. He is so romantic and treated me like a queen and as soon as my ex got out of prison I helped him out. My husband took this as a threat and left me. He is now saying he just doesn't love me anymore. How do I save this or can I?

what should i do to save my marriage? I love my wife and she keeps saying im pushing here away i try not to, like when we are fighting i try to give her a hug and a kiss but now she is saying that she just doesn't want me to do that when she is mad im just trying to save are marriage what else can i do to save it

Can having another baby save a bad marriage? My friend is married to a guy who is having cheating issues. She just found out. In fact, he tried to get this new girlfriend pregnant !! He broke all contact with this girlfriend. Now, my friend thinks if SHE has another baby with him, it will save thier marriage. What do you think? Thanks

How does my husband save our marriage of 15 yrs.? It has been very hard with cheating, a mystery child, abusive while pregnant, verbally abusive and just selfish, etc. How do I forgive and move on OR should I just plain move on because enough is enough? We have 2 toddlers.

I need to save my marriage, is there still a chance? I have been an insecure, nagging, snooping wife for the last couple of months. I was convinced that my husband was cheating but never found anything on him. I used to be full of life, enjoyed it to the max, felt beautiful and smiled 24/7. During this time (rough time in my marriage) I started feeling less attractive and not good enough for him. We have argued too much and now that he is trying to work things out (if not our marriage will end like right now) I have decided that I want to return to who I used to be. I am told by many people that I am a beautiful person inside and out and have a great personality but I just can't seem to think the same way. I want to stop trying to find something on my husband and go back to normal. Can someone please help me on giving advice on how to do this. I am attending counseling and I work and go to school full time but I know that I have lots of insecurities. Please help, I want to leave this stupid depression behind!! Husband and I have been working out and I've lost 14 pounds already. I was at 125 and now 111. He says he loves me dearly and thinks I am beautiful but he is not a very affectionate person and won't show it or say if often. I just feel that he has matured and his "likes" have changed. I can't seem to trust him and it really hurts, the only thing he has ever done is lie here and there but nothing major and his excuse for this is that he lies to avoid arguments. He also says that he needs privacy at least with his cell phone since he used it for work and personal. I am just paranoid and the cell phone always seems to be the cause of our arguments. He has left the phone at home while out to the store and never recieved calls or text and he says I can go through it whenever I want but why do I still feel that I can't trust him? No evidence that he has ever cheated at all. Small misunderstandings have popped up but where cleared. I was not the person to look through his phone but I do have the online password to check amount of text messages and all the calls. He says he has nothing to hide and I can check and compare to his phone.

Is there ANYTHING I can do to save my marriage? Is this my fault? First I'd like to say I've been here many times. You may recognize this scenario due to that. It's just an easy place to seek advice and my life is hell right now. 27, newlywed, been with him a total of 11+ years. He won't fucking move in. Sure, he comes home every night and sleeps here.There is no nicer way to put that. He simply must go to his parent's house every morning and night. I sit and wait for him to come home to me every single night. I started calling his parent's house and honestly I'm just really uncomfortable. I have contemplated going by. I KNOW for a fact he is at his parent's. We bought an amazing house. We are living together for the first time too. Our house is bigger than anyone's that we know, it is amazing, comfortable, fantastic view. Basically- the house itself should be a place he should want to be, nevermind the issue he has with growing up and "leaving and cleaving". This is just weird. My parent's house is literally 3-4 minutes from my house. I go there once every week-and-a-half. My husband goes a bit out of his way to carry on at his parent's house for hours each and every night and stops there each and every morning. He has yet to move anything in other than some clothes. Months later at this house they are still in a trash bag on the floor of our bedroom. His heart is not here with me at all. It's not even in the house. I am still so excited about the house. The house doesn't even excite him! He comes from a dysfunctional family. I do not know much. Here is what I know: his dad seems so normal and nice, not all there but nice. He came from a rough family and my husband's mother did not let the father raise him. He claims he and his sister would have turned out screwed up if it weren't for the mother. The mother and sister are more like best friends and the mother is #1 to the both of them, even the sister is married. The mother and sister are very controlling and the sister is a bit psychotic with her control over everyone especially my husband. This is what I know. My husband says when I ask that he move in or come home to me and not his parents EVERY night he yells at me "you will NEVER tell me what to do!" What I don't understand is why he considers me asking that, after MONTHS now, that he come home I our house from work and get ready for work here, and also moving in "telling him what to do." What I ask for is the bare minimum anyone could ask for in a marriage. He left me for 10/11 days over a blow up over this and he threw that in my face just now. "I left for ten days!" and calls me an asshole. The way he talks to me screws with my head. It makes me feel like I should not have asked him to move the rest of his things in or come home to me, like I should have let it go. Then I think wait a minute... That's not right...!? Any holiday he is at his parent's. They have something going on and he's there. They are first. So it goes beyond this. I feel like I don't know what to do. I come here a lot because it is quick and easy and I have been with this man so long. To leave him would be forever life changing. My worry is that there is something else I could do that I'm not doing. What if I should confront his parent's? What if I should allow someone I know to confront him? What if I should not say anything? I don't know what more I can do. I cant take it anymore I'm scared if I leave I'll have made a mistake. It seems like such a waste. I love him, he is the one I want to grow old with. Been with him so long. All this time and to leave now? But it's miserable... Never saw this level of bs until now.

Should I try to save my marriage? I am a 20 year old stay at home wife and mother to a wonderful 19month old little boy. My husband is a very hard worker which is how I stay home with my son. My husband also has a drinking problem, he gets extremely angry. One month after our wedding he physically wouldn't let me leave my house with my child, then locked me out with my child inside with him while he was raging drunk. Whenever he is mad at me he says the car is no longer mine and throws in my face that HE pays the bills. He has yelled at me in front of my child. called me names, and says he is sick of me and that I am his problem. I serve my husband all of his meals he NEVER serves himself, I clean the house, do all the laundry, take care of my son 24/7 (he never helps with the baby), and tells me the only problem in our marriage is me. I feel done with this, I have alot of guilt for letting these things happen around my child who I love more than anything. I have no one but my husband, no friends, or family that I can stay with. I depend on him completely. I am young but I am content being a mother and wife. All I want is a good solid family for my little boy. I would love to have another child but don't want to bring another child into this mess. Please only serious advice. Personally I feel the best thing for my child is to leave but I am torn because I dont want to end up a single mom living on welfare on the other hand I want my son to have his parents together in a loving home. It will kill me to leave my little boy in day care and work a crappy job and never go anywhere or spend any time with him. Should I try to stay and make things work? or leave. and how do I go about leaving? The reason I speak about my child like he belongs to me, is because I am the one who has taken care of him since the day he was born. My husband goes out getting drunk and I am the one at home feeding, changing diapers, reading books, and putting my son to bed. I don't have a babysitter I am with my boy all the time. I never yell, cuss, or anything close around him. And my husband has been physical in the past. I dont appreciate rude comments. This is my life and my childs life. My son loves his dad and I will never take him away regardless of what happens between myself and my husband. I could never do that to my son.

If I asked my teenage daughter to leave to save my marriage, will it be seen as wrong.? I'm a mother of three; I have a 21 year old daughter(away at college), my 16 year old daughter and a 13 year old son. I divorced their father 3 years ago. Now, I'm newly remarried to an amazing man. We've been dating for over a year and we just got married in July. It seemed kind of sudden for my children but I truly love this man, he loves me, he's sweet to me etc. I'm 49 and he's 45, hence, both old enough to know what we want without playing the young cliche "date for a longer time before you think about marriage" game. My new husband's ex-wife passed away of leukemia over a year ago( around the same time he began dating me), leaving him to raise their 17 year old son and 14 year old daughter. He and his children's mother were long divorced before she died. Now, my husband and his children live with me and mine. They all moved in a week AFTER we got married. About a month before our wedding, we confirmed some "suspicions" we were having about my 16 year old daughter and his 17 year old son. They've been having this "fling" behind our backs. Of course, we told them to break up as it was extremely unacceptable. My stepson seemed understanding but my daughter was clearly upset. She used it as something ELSE to resent me for, since she's been practically hating me ever since I divorced her father. But I thought she'd get over it eventually so I didn't panic. Now, here's the issue now that it's SEPTEMBER. I found out from my SON that my daughter and my stepson are still fooling around. My son(age 13) has anger issues like his sister, he still hasn't accepted his new stepfather, he doesn't get along with neither of his new stepsiblings and he apparently doesn't even like my daughter(his biological SISTER) very much either. So he told me that out of spite but I don't really care; I'm just glad I found out some way. So, of course, my husband and I confronted my daughter and his son. Things got so complicated, my daughter lost her temper on ALL of us....cursing, screaming, name-calling. But most of it was directed at my stepson. My stepson HAS a girlfriend yet he was clearly stringing my daughter along, playing with her emotions. My daughter got so upset that she got physically violent with my stepson right in front of me and his dad(of course we pulled her away). This has gotten too complicated especially when my husband and I started arguing(our first SERIOUS argument). Naturally, I defended my child and he defended his. When we calmed down, we both agreed that we love each other too much for this mess, so we need a solution. I was thinking of contacting my EX-husband and asking him if he would mind letting our daughter stay with him. She'll be 18 in two years anyway. But I feel so horrible and I definitely don't know what my daughter would feel towards me then. I mean, she DOES love her father and miss him very much, so I don't see WHY it should be a bad idea. Clearly, she and my stepson cannot be under the same roof too much longer. I'm confused. What should I do?

i have 2 kids,but my wife want 1 more,i dont want anymore what can i do to save my marriage? i dont think it reasonable to divorce bcos of that,because my wife insist she must have her way

Should i give her up for adoption to save my marriage? My husband and I were asked if my niece could be placed in our care temporarily due to a cps case with my sister. She tested positive for met at the time she gave birth so cps took her child away. My husband and I left the hospital with her when she was three days old and we have had her since. She is now a little over two. At that time we had one child of our own who is now 3 and have had one since who is now one . They are all exactly 12 months apart. We have been going through this long battle with cps . While we were so sure that my sister would change and get her life together to be reunited with her child , we were informed at the time of placement that it could be possible that wouldn't happen and if it didn't then would long term placement be something we would consider . During this 2 year period , we have had a lot of struggle getting any financial assistance for this child and the cost of things have gone up dramatically. We have also had another birth child of our own that was not planned. It is very stressful with three kids this age to do much of anything.there is a lot of fit throwing , crying and screaming . Not to mention my husband works a lot of hours and gets paid the same salary regardless. We have also had to get a new vehicle because the last one kept breaking down and also wasn't big enough to fit all kids safely. We have also lost our family sitter and had to resort to daycare because for the last year we worked opposites to avoid child care costs but were always fighting because we were either at work or at home with all three kids and got no break at all or a day off for family time. All of the sudden, my husband wants me to give my niece up for adoption because he is tired of dealing with three kids and at the time we took her we weren't planning to have another one . I told him I am not going to give her up and if he expects me to then he is going to have to leave . My oldest son and her are very close and I do not want to them thru it

What should a woman do to save her marriage and keep her husband from staying long in forbidden relationships? I've been married to a good-looking womanizer for more than twelve years and we have an eleven-year old daughter. My husband had several women in the past but now he seems to be getting more involved this time. He brought home this Chinese girl while my daughter and I were on a 5-week vacation to my parents' home. This girl left the kitchen dirty. I also found broken wineglasses, empty bottles of wine, spices and herbs in the kitchen, a toothbrush in the bathroom, disinfectant, a negative result of a pregnancy test kit, and unused feminine napkins. My husband sent her home the day before we arrived but they were too careless not to tidy the apartment. I also found three kissmarks on his chest. I still love my husband. I want to keep him and save our marriage. I want to protect my daughter from the truth but he has drained me of all emotions. How can I keep going? How can I stop them in this forbidden relationship? How can I keep a man who doesn't know the word "change"? I am hurt..

Should I leave cheating husband for my ex that still love me? or try to save marriage with no children involve I caught my husband a couple times cheating and he always pressure me not to leave him, but I do not have any trust anymore. We do not have any children. Now my ex that i was with for 5 years is still in love with me, he has been contacting me for 10 years as he never got over me leaving. I left because i was young and did not know if he was the one, but now I think he is. Don't you? or should I try to save my marriage?

I've been called a weak wife and a strong wife by some because I'm trying to save broken marriage. Opinion pls? My Husband comes and goes to explore other relationships and right now were off for the past year. Off means he only acts as good father to our children and not a husband to me. My choice is to work through the broken marriage for our children and not quickly divorce. Primarily because he is a great father active in their life. Why am I viewed positively as a strong wife by some and negatively and a weak woman by others because I don't want to divorce my cheating husband? He always come back.

am i doing the right thing to save my marriage? i am in the army and my wife is a nurse. we have two kids. A few months ago i got pcs orders to move to va. Since then our marriage has been in a rut and i am completely consumed in saving my marriage. my wife has given me the d word and completely consumed with herself. She says that right now all she wants is herself. She says that her feelings are selfish and they are her and not me. She said she needs her space. She says that i am controllng. I have backed up and given her space. By doing so she has been off her normal self as in feeling that she can go out when she pleases, not tell me where she is going, not communicating and so on. She says she is rebelling against me because she feels that i am controlling. I still do not know what she means when she says i am controlling. Her family feels that she has changed drastically over the last few months. She says really hurtful things then tells me to cuddle her. i am 31 she is 27. Most of our arguements lately are from her total disregard to communicating. i want this to really work out. I am not sure of the routes to take. We moved 2 weeks ago and she has made it clear that she is not happy here. She says if she was completely out of the marriage she would not have moved with me, not wear her ring and would have left. Some days are good some are bad, but again most of our arguements are that she is completly disconnected from me and our kids and that she is more concerned with going out and texting? Has anyone lived through something like this? What am i to do seems like i am completely consumed with fixing my marriage and my wife doesnt want to talk about it but continues to be disconnected. When i get fed up with her actions she threatens divorce. Please help.

Help save my marriage,please!? I am so distraught, well more tired like it. I do and do for my husband and he takes and takes without caring. I cook, clean, serve him all the time, yet he doesn't even say thank you. I have given up on that. I know most guys are like that. But its not that simple. If that were the only problem then I feel I would be oh so much more happy but no, it goes beyond that. When we first got married eh criticized my cooking. Not in a polite way but plain rudely. He would yell what the crap is this!? But eventually he said its okay when my cooking got better as the months went by and I asked for his opinion. Now he comes home and eats the dinner I cook and rarely complains about it. Deeper does the problem of our marriage go. On the weekends we stay home all day and watch t.v. and nowadays I work on weekends sometimes part-time. If I am home,we just sit on the couch and eat our emails and watch t.v. In between he may go online to read the news/sports/do office related work.

How to save marriage? someone? Do you believe my acquaintance is dumb for trying to save her marriage? This is her 4th marriage, so she is genuinely doesn't desire to feel like she has failed again. She has been married seven years

How do I save my marriage? I have been having anger problem and disrespectful manner towards my wife for a long time which I thought it was my normal reaction towards her attitude, so caused very often argument through our life; Now she fed up with situation (After 12 years) and wants separate and live in the house like housemate for the sake of our kid; I really feel devastated and deeply regretted and I started to change my behavior and bring under control my anger (very serious anger-therapy) and I was successful for the past two months, but for her is too late and she would not change her mind; Is there any chance to save this marriage?

How to save marriage? Anyone? Do you guess my acquaintance is dumb for trying to save her marriage? This is her 4th marriage, so she is genuinely doesn't want to feel like she has failed again. She has been married eight years

Would you fight to save your marriage if the OW didn't want to let go of your husband? Affair has been a few years. My husband cheated on me and it seems she decided she wants him. How long do affairs last? I think they must be in the fantasy stage. We separated but we have kids to raise and I don't want to be a single mother. How can I keep being positive?

How can I save my marriage when he's unwilling? My husband & I have only been married for 2months & he wants a divorce. I've moved 7x back and forth from seattle to boston in the last 7 months for this man before we got married. He's in the military so I moved 3,000mi to be with him, gave up nursing school now (relocating), gave up the air force reserves(he said he didnt want a wife in the military so I DEP discharged), moved away from everything i know to be with him family/friends, promised thing would be better, promised he'd give up porn..etc. etc. This is what he told me,"I think it's best if we go our seperate ways, I don't want to be married anymore, we argue too much and this isn't the kind of marriage I want, and I don't want to be married anymore." I don't get it I have bent backwards for him, given up anything he's asked me too, I cater my husband & I'm submissive to him, but it seems it's never good enough. I have moved 7x within 8mo from seattle to boston because he'll want me one minute then he won't. Last time I left before we got married I was gone for 2months & he begged crying for me to come back, saying he realized what he lost & couldn't believe he treated me so badly, he was gonna kill himself if i didn't come back, had his family calling me asking to give him a chance..blah blah. So I gave him another chance, got married & a month and a half later..REPEATS! It's emotionally draining & I'm just so torn. I think there's another girl, I checked the cell acct and he's constantly texting this number from 12noon to 9:55pm & again the next day starting at 6:27am to now (9:40am) last i checked. He stays on the phone with her 30-55min at a time. So i confronted him & he lied at first & then said it's his co-worker & she's married, so i called her & she was rude, said she was happily married & she didn't have to explain why she's texting my husband so much. He wanted me to move back home until this girl started texting him yesterday & then he text me after she texted him for the first time and told and told me not to come back home, it's better this way. Why marry someone just to divorce after 2months and not try to save your marriage. We haven't even went to counseling. I don't know what to do, he's very selfish, stubborn & set in his own ways, yet I have no clue why I want to save my marriage with someone who always puts me on the back burner after everything I've done for him. What should I do? Is is worth saving? How can I make him realize? *He sent me divorce papers last week, tells me not to sign them we'll work on them & then he'll say sign them and send them back to me..I can't do this.

How do I save my marriage from my thinking false stuff is happening? I need help on how to save my marriage , I have cheated in my wife on the past , several times and now I always think something is going on that is not and it is pushing us apart. I don't have proof of anything wrong she has done just what I think she has done and She has about had it with me because of it. I dont know what to do ?

can marriage save him from deportation? My boyfriend has an expired visa. It's been expired for 5 years now. His mom didn't renew his visa and didn't work his papers that's why he is having a lot of trouble. We don't want him deported. And we want that his status would be legal. Would marrying him give him a green card? Coz my grandparents said that marriage cannot change a visa's status anymore. HELP!

How to save my marriage part two? I asked a question yesterday on how to save my marriage, most people told me talk to my husband , start counseling. Well to inform everyone I went to counseling myself yesterday as well as my husband and I signed up for marriage counseling which will start shortly. My husband enrolled in a anger management class given he believes he will need more help keeping his cool. So thank you to all who answered and if anyone has anything else that might help that would be great.

My husband wants a divorce how can I save my marriage? I really don't want to lose my husband. Does anyone have any advice? How do I get GOD to hear and answer my prayer? Thanks in advance

How can I save my marriage? I did not marry him for divorce. It’s been 2weeks that we are fighting continuously. I know at the end he or me will ask for divorce. Is there any solution about how can I save my marriage, and have a happy life?

Can anyone vouch for Save My Marriage Today by Amy Waterman? If anyone has read this, please share your opinion.

Can having an affair save a marriage? I ask myself this every time I do it. If I didn't, I think I would get mad at my wife and then we would be done. Its not like I don't love her or anything, but she doesn't do the crazy stuff in bed I like. Does anyone else have this experience?

wife is pregnant by another man.she wants the baby but i don't.is adoption a good option to save the marriage? i want the adoption because i cannot raise a child that is a constand reminder of what she did outside our marriage. She feels insulted that i even brought it up. i'm trying forgive and compromise to save the marriage but this is difficult as you could imagine. ( please save the unproductive comments) just searching for positive input on my dilemna. thanks.

How to save a marriage after an affair? I am the guilty one and it hurts like hell. I have done as much? as I can think of to show my husband how much I love him. He has moved out and wants space. Please can you give me help on how to let go

My wife wants divorce. She is seeing someone. I am 50. She is 42. Son 18. I want to save marriage. Please Help? We are married for 23 years. She do not respect my parents, friends, guests etc. We both are self employed. Most of our properties are on joint names. I saved this marriage 16 years back as my son was only 2 years that time. She told me to marry somebody else. I do not think 50 is an age to marry again. Please give me some good advice or address of help organisations. Thanks.

How Do You Save A Marriage? I failed. Drove out both stepsons, leading to resentment from my wife. Daughter disrespects us both at 11, only going to get worse. Is it best I cut my losses and move out?

How can I save my marriage? My wife and I are seperated and I have gave her divorce papers already, the only reason I did was because I am so frusterated and don't know what else to do how can I save my marriage. we barley even talk to each other.much less see each other but she will not sign the papers. What do I do?

How can i save my marriage? my husband and i have been to 3 different counselors, we've tried alot, we don't agree on anything from housework to free time, we don't fight effectively but we fight everyday, sometimes i hate him, i don't know what else to do. i love him but it's like we never should have ended up together so what do i do? let me add we're having a baby

should i pretend to believe in jesus to save my marriage? my wife cries everyday because she thinks I will burn in hell. I told her I don't believe in that silly bible stuff but it don't stop her from crying.

Ways to Help Save Marriage? Im looking for ways to help save marriage, im from Europe and find my marriage is going downhill. I found a good guide at http://helpsavemarriagenow.blogspot.com but wanted to know how to save marriage today, as we do not spend much time together. Thanks

sex therapy=last chance to save marriage, but:? sex therapy is the last chance i have to save my marriage but i don't even feel like going. how can you expect to save a marriage when you are not even attracted to the person? we have zero chemistry & sadly, i can't even remember why i was attracted to him in the first place. i know i was drawn to him because i knew he would take care of me....but i'm older now & don't need a caretaker. (i was 19 when i married, now i'm 23 and he's 30). i actually recommended sex therapy a few years ago but that suggestion was brushed aside. now we are separated (for 7 months) & now he wants to try. he says he'll do anything. he is a good man with a heart of gold. i love him more than anyone.....but he just doesn't get my juices flowing. so, should i visit a sex tharapist with him, even if i don't want to? the only reason i'm considering is because he's really truly willing to do anything...& i feel rotten for not returning the favor....plus, i don't feel right getting a divorce w/o trying PS: I have already cheated on him. he knows about it and took me back with open arms, as it was an eye opener for him----he realized he was not taking care of my emotional and sexual needs. isn't it too soon to be feeling the "7 year itch"? i've only been married 4 years and started feeling it after a year.

Do people still mail out marriage engagement/save the date announcements? What is the best way to announce my marriage engagement? I would like to mail a save the date/engagement announcement but read somewhere that people don't do that anymore. Thank you!

How do you save a marriage when there was cheating involve from both parties? I cheated on my hubby (once) before we got married 5 yrs ago, and yes i confess what I did before we said ''I Do'',then he recently cheated on me and got busted. I have filed for a divorce, but we believe that our marriage can be saved, but are at a lost where to began repairing the damage, when we have our families in our ears telling us that we're stupid to save it, because someone who cheats will always cheat??

My boyfriend wants to have sex but I want to save myself for marriage. What should I do? I've always been told that sex before marriage is a sin and so I want to wait. He doesn't want to wait because we live in Tennessee and he says there's no telling how long it might be before it's even legal...if ever. So I am confused. What should we do? I love him and I plan to be with him forever.

Has anyone used the "guaranteed" save-your-marriage e-books available on the 'net and did it work? Various places sell an e-book (usually described as "divorce buster" or "save your marriage now") advertised as being guaranteed to stop a divorce or separation, even if one partner has already moved out or doesn't want to save the relationship. Has anyone bought this book and used it? What kind of information/advice does it give? Did it actually work?

Is there any where that I can get the complete 40 days of how to help save your marriage from the movie firepr? Is there any where that I can get the complete 40 days of how to help save your marriage from the movie fireproof?

could we save marriage as a purely religious issue by having the government register only civil unions? Regardless of gender and orientation , the government would issue only certificates for civil union. If your church allows you to get married. you have a religious ceremony and that is the marriage. if the churches don't recognize it you have a judge or other public official do the ceremony. This would get the government out of the issue of defining marriage. All family bindings would be called civil unions for tax and other legal purposes. Would you agree to this solution? explain why or why not?

What do men think about women save themselves for marriage? Just wondering what young men think about women who choose to save themselves for marriage. Assume you met a pretty women but she told you that she was saving herself for marriage. Do u have more respect for her or less?

What percent of Americans actually choose to save sex for marriage? Cause I know that in schools the teachers in health are always saying "CHOOSE ABSEDENCE" and "SAVE THE BEST FOR MARRIAGE" but I've been wondering how many people actually choose to listen to that advise. I know even the really smart and responsible people dont choose it so what percentage of people do? -i would like a percentage for both males and females- -a ratio works too-

If someone cheats, why the hell would they want to save their marriage? Why is it only AFTER they are caught they want to allofasudden save the marriage?

how to save a marriage when things start going wrong? I want to know how to save a marriage when things start going wrong. The guide I found at http://www.helpsavemarriagenow.blogspot.com is good but I have not had a chance to read it yet. Has anyone in here come back from a broken marriage to make it whole again? Thanks

How to save marriage? I want to know ideas on how to save the institution of marriage in the US By saving, meaning to reduce the divorce rate To bring back value in it like chastity until marriage and other stuff Ardrick that is one of the reasons it is failing, more of it will kill it off, you don't give a drowning man more water No, allowing gay marriage is not the answer You honestly believe that will help save it? Pardon me, more marriages equal more divorce, thus helping out the lawyers and helping the disintegration of marriage.

Teens trying to save themselves for marriage today? I'm a high school junior girl and am planning to save myself for marriage. I've never had a boyfriend and it probably has a lot to do with the fact that I don't feel like most guys would want to date someone who wouldn't want to do anything sexual...Although having one for the affection and the relationship definitely sounds really nice at times. What Do You Think??

How to save my marriage? I need ideas on how to save my marriage, please hhelp, i have tried everything

OK nice people of yahoo would you rather save yourself till marriage? Would you rather save yourself till marriage (not for any religion purposes or anything like that) just as a self respect act and a act of showing respect to your significant other. I know I would how many think it is a good moral or idea to do that? Thanks and be honest please.

Why would someone want to save their first kiss for marriage? I dont get that, i could understand saving sex until marriage but your first kiss?!?!? I dont even understand how thats a relationship, and how you can find someone who is willing to do that along with you haha. Anyone else agree with me?

Does Save My Marriage Today By Amy Waterman Work? Does anyone know if save my marriage today by Amy Waterman is a scam or if it work? I heard a lot about save my marriage today but I wonder if Amy Waterman can really help or not to save my marriage. If you tried please post your feedback.

How can i save a 27 year marriage,when your spouse is a alcoholic.? How can i save my 27 year old marriage,when your spouse is a alcoholic.

do you feel counselling can help to save the marriage from breaking? Making a marriage work can be difficult, frustrating, and very challenging...But more and more couples are realising that they need to give special attention to make their marriages work...Everyone employs different techniques -- right from analysing the problem themselves to getting professional help.

How to help save marriage, way to improve marriage? I wanted to know whats the best tips to improve a marriage with? I found a good blog with a guide at http://www.helpsavemarriagenow.blogspot.com but really wanted some inside tips from people who have had a failed marriage go well. Thanks

Has anyone had an affair to save a marriage? Both persons involved in the affair are married. Both persons are unsatisfied with the sex life within the marriage. Neither person wants a relationship to come of the affair. They just desparatly need sexual tension released.

If you are divorced, looking back do you think you could have done anything different to save your marriage? Do you think the signs were there before the marriage? If you could do it again would you have stay married or never got married to your ex.

How does marriage 'save' you? I heard someone use the word 'save' when referring to being married. Is this true? What do you think was meant by that? Is marriage beneficial for men or women?

Why don't people save themselves for marriage? No, the marriage might not last forever but it would cut out a whole lot of problems. Guess I'm old fashoned but saving yourself shows self respect, self controle and value. I think its very admirable.

What is the point in trying to save your marriage if your spouse have an affair? I just don't understand the logic behind it ! there will always be resentment,yet some still hang around for the bitter pain !

How could you save a marriage that only one truly supports? both people with a passion to be together but only one that really truly supports the relationship and the other is just doing there own thing, and what if the one with the support is all out of love and is trying to love but it hurts to love and it hurts to keep giving knowing that nothing is ever given back to them. and what if the other person flips from good to bad and you never know when there going to not want the other supportive one around and only wants the supportive one around at their beck and call?

where do you get help to save your marriage? your marriage is breaking apart you and your love one need counseling but your broke and can't pay for it.

How do I get out of debt to save my marriage? Need ways to catchup on old debt to save my marriage. I don't budget well and need advice.

What would you do stay or leave and try to save your marriage? What would you do if your husband/wife tells you "I dont love you anymore" and dosent respect you and you still love that person?

Would you tell a white lie to save a marriage ? I found myself in a position in which i was forced to do it? What would you do if you were in such a position ?

Applying for stay against divorce will be helpful to save marriage? Who r the persons will be helpful in getting a signature for filing the petition from a foreign country and is there any voluntry organization for NRI

Do you think tax payers money should be used to save madonnas marriage? our money is already saving the incredibly wealthy... why not save one more

Do you think that Jon and Kate should try to save their marriage and kick the media out of their home? It is sad to see a family that was once so happy just being themselves and having 8 beautiful children turn into two different types of people hounded by the media. I am sure it is awful to live in a gold fish bowl.

Do I have a chance to save my marriage? My wife told me she was not passionate about me anymore and hasn't been for some time now. We were married for 10 years, divorced and remarried almost three years ago. We haven't had a passionate kiss in YEARS! I accepted this because I know I love her and just didn't press the issue. We have a good sex life in my eyes but love making......?????? She at first just wanted a divorce and now she wants to try to work on it. One catch is she only wants to give it until the first of the year to fix this lost of passion. The other is I know love her love and want our marriage to continue and be a good one. The problem is she sees me as just a best friend, but nothing more. We have a great time together and enjoy each others company. The only way I see changing things is if I change or am I missing somthing?

People who save themselves for marriage - confused? We have been having a discussion with my friends.Some who save themselves for marriage use other ways of pleasuring their partners and themselves before marriage. How can they be considered virgins if they are already engaging in sexual activity, but the actual intercourse? How does it make really a difference, and how can they say that they got married 'pure'?

Are there any books out there about how to help save a marriage.? I am looking for a book that might have 365 ways ( each way would be like an activity for the two of us to do together everyday of the year to help strengthen our marriage. ) of helping the marriage. I am looking for something to help us until I can get us into a Marriage Encounter through the church. A marriage counselor is very costly.

Does anyone know of any activities sheets that are printable on-line and free that can save a marriage? Cannot afford marraige counnsling right now, but do not want to loose my husband. I need some worksheet like activities for us to do for problems such as communication, sexual issues (he has sexual anxiety, we think) and getting over the previous hurt and pain... so we can save our marriage, we have a baby on the way...help please :) I neec to try this tonight that is why I need to print them off computer.

How could you save your marriage and stop a divorce or break up ?

My husband had an affair after we were married a year. Should I really try to save my marriage? What are some ways I can cope?

Wife filed divorce petition but i want to save marriage. plz help? 15 days staying together after marriage on november 30th 2008, my wife is now staying at her house citing the reasons that I dont love her and didnt had sex with her and even not kissed her atleast once. Its true because I behaved like that because of some misunderstandings which i came to know later. Now, she is asking for divorce and planning to file petition but I want to save the marriage. She told me that she will prove that she is virgin even after staying together 15days after marriage. Is it true that the court will allow divorce on being vergin or not having sex for 15 days after marriage? If she says in court that I'm not able for sex, is there any procedure to prove my ability? If I'm against mutual divorce and really want to save marriage, what procedures should I follow legally? How long will it take her to get divorce if she is not going to change her mind?

Would you leave or try to save your marriage? My husband lost his second job in 6 months. I am currently 7 months pregnant. We have 3 other kids. All he will do is sleep. My dad offered him a small job and he went to bed. A friend offered him a small job and he went to bed. Right now he is sleeping of the couch while our kids are fighting. He won't help me at all. I am so sick of this. I get so mad that last night I locked him out of our room. He tried to call me at 4:00 in the morning to let him in. Would you try to work it out or call it quits?

What can I do now to save marriage with bipolar spouse? My husband's family believes he was fine until he met me, and I am starting to believe it as well and I cannot live with myself if I did. It wasn't until a friend of his got involved that his family began to doubt me and now they have convinced him he doesn't want anything to do with me. The only people he has left in his immediate family are his brothers and uncle neither live here. I am in nursing school and understand the disease process but did not know he was bipolar until a recent diagnosis so we argued.Now I know what he has and he is very delusional and has been ordered to commitment up to ninety days. Everyone is against me, his doctors never talked to me, I had medical power of attorney and he revoked it verbally while in the hospital. Theses doctors didn't put him on Lithium until last week almost a month after I had pleaded with them to do so. They had him taking 800mg of seroquel once a day and cymbalta and ambien.I did some research and when his brother talked to the doctor they realized their mistake and changed his meds and the dosage from 800 to 300.Then they finally listened to me about putting him on Lithium. Of course his friends have convince him the problem is not that he has bipolar but our marriage. Yes, we have had our share of problems but looking back on things maybe it was because I was disagreeing with him during a manic phase where I know I cannot win that argument. Or before I knew he was bipolar maybe it was because I saw him spending everything he had on drums, ebay etc. What I want to know is from someone who has gone through this what can I do other than hire an attorney and fight like hell for him or leave. I want to save this and will take on the daily tasks of caring for him but I feel it is too late because he will not talk to me and his family blames me. I tried to get guardianship over him but after his "friend" got involved they sent emails to my attorney saying I was out to get him. I guess the errot with the meds, paying all of his bills, and not running away don't count for anything. They actually think it is stress and the sad part is, since he is taking his meds in the hospital, and staying away from me, the medication is beginning to work...and they attribute his recovery with me not being there...What do I do? Thank you

Best vacation to save marriage? I'm trying to rekindle the old flames of my marriage. Are there any places that I can suggest for us to go on our anniversary?

trying to save marriage...? Okay so our marriage has been having problems ( some already now from before questions) well our anniversary is next week we are planning on going down to the coast for the day packing a cooler and in general reconnecting. So my question. I need ideas for a present for him. besides are card. well i suppose i was not very clear in my writtings. we are not trying to save our marrage with the picnic we have been actively reaching out and working on our problems. which can all be fixed.

My husband had affair for 2yrs BUT, now wants to save marriage. Should I "demand" PROOF the affair is over? Do you think this is the least he could do to reassure me he isn't still with this woman that made my life hell? In fact, He didn't actually say it was over he just said "he wanted us to save our marriage" Are there any tough questions for me to ask him? Obviously, he will lie so should I contact "this woman" to see if he really ended it? Or will she just lie as well? How would I now for a fact and what is proof that it's over between them? I don't want to waist anymore of my life. I want to work it out for our kids but, my heart tells me I need to "Be Sure" He was with HER for 2 yrs of our marriage!

Marriage on the rocks due to horrible disagreement my wife and i can't reconcile,please help save our marriage? This is bad! My wife insists that you're supposed to start with your left leg when putting on pants, and i believe that you're always supposed to start with your right leg...who's right?

Trying to save marriage...? I've asked my husband to go to marriage counseling and he will not go. So I've been going by myself. He said he'll go on his own, after I twisted his arm but he still hasn't called. I'm wonder what to make of this.

How can I save my marriage and stop a divorce. Rejuvinate my relationship? My husband has said he thinks he might have married me out of guilt. We had a child prior to marriage. He doesn't know if he loves me or wants our marriage to work. How can we rejuviante our marriage and work through his feelings to save our marriage???

How do I save my marriage from my passive husband and demonic step children? My step children are hideously selfish and don't listen to a thing I tell them. They won't even bathe! They're 14(boy) and 11(girl). My husband has a passive parenting style. He hates to hear any fussing or fighting and likes to avoid confrontations. He knows that they treat me bad, but he says he doesn't understand why he lets them do it. He says he just doesn't know how to make them do the right thing. He's tried punishment, rewards, and a combination of both. Nothing seems to work. I know that he loves me very much and it bothers him that he can't figure out how to make the children behave and do as they're told. He also loves his children, but they are tearing our marriage apart. Anyone have any ideas or have you ever been in this same situation?? A little more info: We have a two year old daughter together. Mu husband just deployed to Iraq and will be gone 15 months. The mother rarely calls, lives out of state and is schizophrenic . She sees them maybe once every other year. My husband is a good man and a good father to my baby. He carries a lot of guilt about his divorce and the impact it had on his kids. I didn't mean to make it sound like he was spinelss. I think his passiveness stems more from guilt than anything else. We've been married for about 3 1/2 years. I tried for the first two years to have some sort of relationship with the two of them. I've done things with them/for them, I'm the one who takes them shopping, I'm the one who buys them new clothes, I'm the one who makes their father take them to the library, the park, etc. After two years of doing for them and getting nothing (respect) in return, I stopped doing so much for them. They are just REALLY selfish children who were used to being the bosses and getting what they wanted. I've even suggested family counselling, but now that my husband is deployed, it's too late for that. Just a little nore in defense of myself: My husband is in the military and he's not home much. The children are left in my care. I have provided them with structure and activities. It's easy for a few to point the finger at me and say I'm the one being selfish, but if you any idea how many "talks" the kidsa and I have had about our relationship, you'd understand why, at this point, I'm pulling my hair out. I agree with some of the negative comments. You're right, I shouldn't let their behavior bother me, but I don't know of any way to just "turn off" my emotions when they treat me so badly. Even their father ADMITS that they treat me badly. Again, I have suggested (on several occasions) that we seek family councelling. I work, their father is gone, and I'm taking care of all three children. Is it so much to ask, for them to just follow a few rules? I've compromised a lot. I stopped nagging them to bathe, brush teeth, do homework or clean up after themselves! By the way, Skidoo, my screen name was a joke between my sister and myself. One I've had for years. No hidden meaning whatsoever. :) And for any of you who took offense to the term "demonic step children", come on! It was a phrase to show just how frustrated I am with them! I've done more for those two chilldren since I've known them than either their real mother or their father. I've taught them why they shouldn't lie or steal, how to have compassion for others, how to take care of themselves, and a lot of other real life skills they need to become productive adults. The issues they have were going on a looooong time before I was ever in the picture. I tried to give them what they needed but they rejected me, so don't point fingers at me for getting tired of trying to help them when they don't want or appreciate my help. Sometimes, I think the only ones who really understand are the ones who have walked in my shoes. And some called ME judgemental?

My marriage is heading down hill. What can I do to save it. The first thing that has gone is intamacy.? The whole PROBLEM is based on saying words that hurt one another.......That is it. As simple as it sounds it is tearing us apart. Instead of forgiving and forgetting we always bring up how much we are hurt......We will never get passed this this way. We have 2 children. Ages 1 and 4. This is not fair to them. Or to us. What can we do to save the marriage. We enetered into this thinking we were soulmates. What has happened?

Can I Save My Marriage? We're separated. She reunited with ex-bfriend and says we're incompatible. HELP!!? we just had a babygirl - our first child. she is from europe and I am from the U.S. The last 4 months of her pregnancy (during which we were fighting and sometimes not even on speaking terms) she spent in her home country and during that time her ex-bf intervened and played the supporting role and now she and he are "together"...I am desperate and am seeking advice as to how to put our marriage back together. she will not go to counciling but has agreed to read some articles I have found on saving marriages. her claim is that she and I are incompatible because we rationalize about things differently and make decisions differently...that our lifestyles are too different but we've only been married for two years. she says her ex gives her security but this is the same guy who while they were dating for 10 years, slept with her best friend and her sister. All I want are my wife and daughter back. she is standing her ground and says she doesnt love me anymore but there was a reason she left him for me. I have to believe there is a way and that deep down she still loves me! I don't want to give up. can someone please lend me some advice? thank you very much, james

I am trying to forgive my wife and save my marriage, but it seems I am doing all the work. any suggestionss? from my previous ?'s on my wife cheating on me.

Help to save marriage!? A couple of years ago I found out that my husband is addicted to porn we both have struggled with this for a long time. I have tried to deal with my angry and fears, and he keeps telling me he is going to change but hasn't and from what I can see hasn't really put any effort and to doing so. The other day I told him that I can no longer go one like this that he either finds help or it is over between us. Now the only reason that I have stuck with it so long is because I don't believe that people should just throw their marriage out of the door when ever bad times come their way. But I can't make him get better he has to try to change himself. I read this book by Clay Crosse called I surrender all, he talked about when he was first trying to over come his addiction that he couldn't even look at cheerleaders on tv without thinking lustfull thoughts because of the affect the porn had on his brain. So I suggested that we have the cable shut off to give him less temptations and he said seeing half naked women isn't the same thing and didn't have nothing to do with his addictions. I can't believe that he can see how the go hand and hand. Does this sound like he doesn't really want to change or is it just me. Any advise is welcomed. Thank you ahead of time. By the way the porn is a problem when it is an everyday thing for a couple hours each time. Plus he doesn't spend anytime with me or his children because he would rather be in his own world. I also can't believe that anyone in here that is a religious person can tell me that there is nothing wrong with porn and if you can you need to read what adultery really is in the eyes of God.

Trying to save marriage because wife is no longer in love, no sex? It's been aprx 4 months now since my wife has told me she doesn't love me. We don't fight and get along fine. We have 2 boys in their teens. She will not get intimate with me and says she must be "in love" in order to have sex. She is not pursuing another relationship, she got a new job that pays more then mine so she is comfortable if I were to leave. We have 18yrs invested in our marriage. I've said some very hurtful things and took our marriage for granted but I've commited to make changes in myself and it feels like I'm making progress in our marriage but it's still lacking intimacy. I plan on asking her to at least try on becoming intimate (even if we don't go all the way) with me. My question is. If she is not willing to try and become intimate should I give up or keep trying. As far as I know she is happy with the current arraigment. PS. I am seriously considering paying a hooker to relieve my sexual tension to get me through this rough time. any thoughts?

? about trying to save marriage?? ? we were having trouble-mostly financial-husband started never being home to spend time with the family-told him we need to get a div if your never wanting to b around--he said no no no he didnt want that=things were better for a few months but i was angry about things still , then about the time when i was beginning to believe he was wanting to stay married- he started having an affair but stil wudnt lev the house kept saying he wanted his marriage, there was confrontation div papers signed and he was gone for a month moved in with the girl he cheated with. then asked to come back home he loves me so much=so he moved back in and told the other girl it was over-now hes acting distant says hes mainly worried about money-but also says he loves me but hes not in love with me like when we first met. he says he wants to stay married but doesnt see how it can work. everyone says kick him to the curb --im not so in love with him that i think i cant ever be with anyone else-but i do want my marriage to work i want our family back, any insight here??

is it possible to save marriage by living sepparately for some time? We both agreed that living appart would give us some space to think and try to find our selvs. He thinks that we want different things from live and time appart might help us to find out what we really want. I don't know i feel so hopeless. We both have good and bad things. He said that we married to young and it seems to me like he has realise he's getting old and wants to see whats it like to be signle again. I know he loves me and care about me i am just not sure whats his priorties in his life at the moment. A few years ago he would say he wants have a family and now career is more important for him. We have split up about a week ago and seems to be getting along a lot better. Talking every day and trying to move forward. I think this is a good start to make progress in our marriage. I have made some decisions as we've had joined account i opend my own so i could manage my own money and get a bit more independat.

How can I save my marriage on the rocks? I have a huge communication gap with my husband. My husband thinks I am influenced by my parents but actually it is the other way round. He discloses & shares everything about his life with his parents and not with me (leading to our gap). I have tried my best to make him open up but of lately things have gone sore between us cz I am doing things on my terms (I have always moulded myself to the desires of my husband and his family). My husband and his family does not let me take any decision on my own and impose their own decisions (which I have been abiding by but of lately I have rebelled to everything). My husband is against the idea of going to a marriage counselor and staying separate with his parents. He wants to file for separation. I am staying with my parents and concerned about future of our kid. I was taking everything and accepting it (mental tensions given by my in laws and them saying things about my family) and being quite about it but now my patience level had hit the max mark. Am I wrong in asking for a happy family life or taking decisions on my own?

Do you think a child can save someones marriage? I get mad when people say they are pregnant and they did it to save their marriage, I also believe that only the wife and the husband can save a marriage, and kids should not be involved.

Through Discrimination Of Gays, Did California Save Marriage And American Families? Is "hate" a family value?

How to save while saving money for marriage.? What are any advices for a first timer renting apartments; such as how to earn money while renting and what is the best temperature to leave the house to save electricity?

Is it possible to save a marriage after both parties have had an affair? is it possible or is getting a divorce the best option??

Why would I want to attend counseling to "save" my marriage? What will a counselor do for me? All I want to do is have sex with different women. Now how is a counselor going to help with that? Is he/she going to setup some 3 way "appointments" or something?

I had an affair. How do I save my marriage? I have been married for just over 9 years. No kids. My wife recently found out about my four month affair with another married woman. It was mainly texts and about 6 face to face encounters. We only had sex once. But that was once too many, I admit. I love my wife with all my heart and don't even think of the woman who I had the affair with. My wife says she wants a divorce and is tired of my accusations and criticizing her of having relationships with her guy friends. She says she's been unhappy the last 2 years. Now this. I have apologized to her, the one I had the affair with, and the the husband of the one I had the affair with. I believe I have done the first step in realizing that I want to save my marriage. Second I have apologized and continuously do on somewhat of a continuous basis as our conversations have been just text since I'm away from home for work, overseas, for another 2 weeks. She says I would do it again if we stayed together but I assured her, that I would not. She has told me it's over and to quit communication w/ her and to leave her alone. Not sure if she's talked to an attorney yet or not.I love her with all my heart and don't know what else to do or say. I don't want to buy her anything fancy as she'll think I'm trying to buy her back. I've come to a fork in the road and don't know what direction to go to from here. I don't know if I should give her time to be alone the next 2 weeks or so, or continue communication via texts but it has ended in "leave me alone" after every short conversation in the last week. Thanks for your time and advice.

Did you save yourself for marriage? I'm planning to save myself for marriage. Did you? If you didn't, did you regret having sex?

If you are christian do you feel obligated to save yourself for marriage? Im catholic, im a virgin, and im saving myself for marriage i want opinions, answers, etc. thanks so much!

She got a perm to save her marriage? I have heard that some marriages were saved when she got a perm. The husband had a new wife, but actually she was the same woman sexually, but something changed besides her hair what could of that been?

What are exercises a trouble married couple could do in order to save their marriage? ? Just anything like Trips, Exercises, and what not.

TEENAGE GUYS ONLY Would you save yourself for marriage to lose your virginity? really, I don't want adults or girls with idealistic views or second hand words. TEENAGE GUYS: Are there any teenage guys left who want to wait to have sex until marriage?

My BF is really best, please help to save my marriage from in laws!? My in laws hate me and then my BF takes their side. thats what they did to me so far-- 1) my wedding got delayed for more than 1- 2yrs 2) they got my engagement canceled over nothing 3) wedding date, wedding venue and wedding city- all r chosen by his parents and they have changed it 3 times without even asking my opinion 4) now they want my parents to give their family big jewels of gold for everyone 5) Honeymoon plan canceled and first night has to be at their home For everything- they use a word TRADITION!!!!! I am really freaking out, my BF is stuck in middle. i really love him.. please help me to handle this sickening situation..and i want to have a good start of married life

Do you think that there is a way I have not thought of to save my marriage? My wife and I have been married for over six years now. We are both about 30. We average having sex once every three or four months. In the last three years we have had sex nine times. I cannot live with this amount, two to three times per month would suffice. I have tried addressing it with her, but am getting nowhere. I only bring it up a few times a year. She won't go to the doctor to check for a physiological problem. According to her she still thinks that I am attractive, orgasming is not a problem, and there is no sexual abuse or other problem in her history. She blames stress and being tired. I have not tried to instegated sex in over two years (because of failure). We also have a toddler, but he is normal and healthy. I cannit live this way and have decided that I will address this one more time. This time I intend to make it clear that she must go to the doctor. If she is unwilling to make a change I am going to leave her. I have never cheated on my wife, but I am starting to think about it; I will not do that to my family. I have been wholly dedicated to my family for years, but I won't live this way. I love my wife. I want my family whole. Am I wrong is there something that I am missing? I do 50% of the chores and still work 50+ hours per week. Help me save my marriage...

what should i do to save my marriage? i feel my wife has drawn away from me. the other day i sat and talked to her and she told me she was in love with her ex-boyfriend (he left her) she has been constantly talking to him which only seems to worsen the problem. what should i do. has anybody been in this situation before. I love my wife very much and would do anything for her and she knows that i love her. but i sat and cried the other night while she was at work because i just don't know what to do anymore i want to tell her to stop contacting him or else but i don't know if that is the appropriate thing to do. she just recently told him that we were married it only took her 6 months. can anybody lead me the way that i need to go to fix this

My Marriage is in danger,I want to save my marriage but my wife and her parents doesn't want? Hi , I have a very difficult situation with me. My wife and I have fights from past two years since we married. Her family supports whatever she does. whether it’s right or wrong, They don’t make her understand that this is wrong and this is right, they always say that we don’t know she can take her own decision, which makes sense to me that they are agree on whatever she is saying. My wife is immature, she and her family always abuses me and my family ,I have a daughter of one year, I don’t want to break the relation because my daughter will also be impacted with my decision. She is not ready to come and live with me ,and Insult my parents whenever they try to talk with her or her family. She is lazy ,she doesn’t want to work at all. I am in US and she is in India. I am feeling a lot of pain in my family and me inside. I love my wife tooo, she and her parents want me to leave my praents,I can not live without her and my parents.My parents are far away from me,I could just think about them and cry nothing else I can do but still my in laws and my wife they dont want me to take care of them.I dont care about my In Laws ,I care about my family,my wife and my daughter. I really need help . Thanks Aarya She was with me in US from past 1.5 years. Her Father had cancer ,and they were bagging to meet her even I wanted my wife to meet with her father before anything happens ,she went there and her father expired,And then I left for India and came back after two months ,she did fight there also with her mom and her elder brother to me and my parents in front of her all relatives.later I thought she is stressed ,I said whatever you want I'll give you come with me.and after three days only she faught again for a cheap issue.

how to save a marriage? my wife says she still loves me but is no longer in love with me. she says there's no one else she wants to leave me for or anything though. i was hoping for tips or links to save a marriage because i love my wife and we have three kids also and i just don't want it to end like this.

Can someone please help me save my marriage? My husband caught me with his father and now I think I'm pregnant? Hey well this situation keeps going from bad to worse. It all started when we were at a get together at his parents house. I was talking to his dad. I was drinking and he was as well. I really don't remember how it happened or what I was thinking things are really fuzzy,but we ended up going into another room and having sex. So then my husband ended up walking into the room where we were at. He came in after we had finished, but we still were not completely dressed yet. Needless to say he knew what had happened, and was very upset about it. He still has been distant and upset since it happened and it's been a couple of weeks. I've told him so many times that I was sorry about it and that I'd do whatever I had to do to get him to forgive me. I should of had another period a couple of days ago. I've been feeling really sick and throwing up to. So I just took like 10 different pregnancy tests and they all came out positive. I had my period last month and my husband and I haven't had sex in like a month and a half. So I'm concerned that if I am pregnant that the baby might be his father's child. I just don't know what to do at this point. I don't believe in aborting because that's like taking an innocent life. I don't think it's right for a innocent baby to have to pay for my mistake. On the other hand I really don't know how I can possibly tell my Chris that I may be pregnant, and that his father may be the father of my child when he is still upset just over the fact that I had a one night stand with his father. I realize that it's his father so that does make it a little more complicated if not impossible to work out, but other people make mistakes and are unfaithful and still manage to save their marriage so I'm hoping that is still possible for us. I do love my Chris very much. Can someone please help me save my marriage, and try to get past this situation in our lives?

Do you think it is a good idea to save yourself till marriage to lose your virginity? What do you think? I am 20yrs old and I want to wait until marriage to lose my virginity. Are you still a virgin and want to keep yourself until marriage or have you already lost it before marriage? What is wrong with having it after marriage? Real answers plz

Is there anyone who actually save themselves for marriage? Were you really able to keep it in your pants until your wedding night?...If so was it everything you expected it to be? Are you still married to that person? If divorced or widowed how has your lifestyle changed, are you celibate, remarried, let loose, what? If remarried did you have sex with that person before you married them?

Did any of you save yourself for marriage only to be very disappointed when it finally happened? Did you think afterwards - Damn that wasn't worth the wait! I mean after such a long build up and all? Or was it the opposite, and it blew your mind? Also was it for religious reasons that you waited?

Shouldddd i stay a virgin and save myself for marriage? Alright, so im sixteen, i've been with my boyfriend for almost nine months now. he doesn't push me towards sex or anything, but i know he obviously wants it, he's 17. part of me really wants to like respect my body and wait until marriage, and then the other part is like, what's the point? There's always a chance of getting pregnant even with protection, and im diffidently not ready for that, no matter what. should i wait? would people look at me differently?

Why do people think that waiting until marriage will save you from STDs and unwanted pregnancies? They can and DO still happen, whether you save it for marriage or not. Waiting until you're married for other reasons are fine....but I don't get why people give "no STDs" or "no unwanted pregnancies" as a reason.

Is it cool to save sex for marriage? I am a Christian and I am abstaining from sex until I get married. No ones opinion will change what I believe. I simply would like others' opinions on this matter.

Does a trial separation work to save a marriage? My husband and I have been married for 2 years, we have 2 children, and we are completely miserable... we love eachother very much, but I just don't feel that love is always enough...I don't want a divorce... I just feel like he needs to take care of himself for awhile... he has never been on his own...he has always had someone to take care of him and because of that I belive that he is very selfish... so my question is... does a trial separation ever work to save a marriage? Or should I stay and try to make it work that way?

Gift ideas for parents who are trying to save their marriage? My dad and step mom's marriage is on the rocks but according to my dad they are trying hard to save it. They have been married for 31 years and I would like to get them some gifts for the New Year that will help rekindle their marriage. My step mom is kind of old fashioned so I don't want to get anything too risque. Any ideas?

Do you plan to save yourself for marriage? I think you know what i mean. And if you didnt, Do you regret doing so?

Is my marriage worth trying to save? We have been married for 6 months. I kicked him out about a month ago because I wanted him to get some help with his anger. Now he has had an affair. Do I still try to save my marriage? We have 3 kids 5,3 and 1 year old. He is the only man my older kids have ever known as a father. We have been going at this on again off again thing for 3 years now. Usually always resulting with him in a relationship with someone else. But now we are married. Do I just give up and move on or try to save my marriage?

ways to save a marriage before its too late? Im looking for ways to save a marriage, but I found a site http://www.helpsavemarriagenow.blogspot.com thats good, but does anyone have any tips on ways to save a mariage? Thanks

What is a good way to save a marriage without going thru counseling?

what is the best way to save my marriage? I lied in the beginning over pointless stuff. now after 3 yrs my wife that is a christian is wanting a divorce, I pray God's spirit moves on her heart and mind.And helps her to forgive me the damage I caused, and allows him to restore our marriage.

How can I contest a divorce in California? How can I save my marriage? My wife and I have be married for about a year and a half. We've had alot of problems during that time. We broken up with each other too many times. It has taken me losing her to relize that she was the best thing that ever happened to me. I've tried everything I know to try and win her back. But she dosn'et belive anyhign I tell her. I didn't treat her like I should have, she tried so hard to make it work for us. I didn't hit her but I know I made her hurt with the stuff I would say to her. But now I really want to make this work. But she has already started the papperwork for divorceing me. I haven't been served yet, but I know its coming soon. I really don't want this divorce. I want to contest it, but I don't know if that would do any good. What are my options if I do, if I contest ,can I ask the judge to order some kind of counselor to help us with our problems. Or is there anything else I can do to try and save our marriage. Thanks for any advice

what best time of the day should couple have there sex? how best can we have sex in order to save my marriage? who should request for this sex ?. how ? and when best most it be?

Should I wait and save sex until Marriage? Answer Please I really need to know the information on should I save sex until marriage?

How can I save my marriage? he claims he feels sad constantly? my husband of almost one year says that he fells sad when he wakes up that this certian happiness he used to have when single is gone forever he constantly asks me if i am going to leave him is is so terrified of it. I think i am codependant too. He had been hurt alot and has issues but im the most understanding person. He constantly asked me if i was cheating on him the first seven months married we were apart (military) he is getting ready to deploy for fifteen months! I love him how can I save my marriage!!!! I dress fully clothed no teenage hoochie stuff i dont flirt and I dont check out men ever! I have nothing but female friends here. If i dont leave a note when i run down the street to the Px he thinks in screwing around

Did anyone save their virginity for marriage and the sex sucked? Anyone? For people who save themselves...what if the sex with that person is really dull?

How to save your virginity for marriage? i have sex with my bf for almost more than a year so how suld i save it for marriage cos im not a virgin any more. Is there any recovery?

As a parent, would you tell your kid to save it for marriage? ...or save it till he or she is adult and mature enough to handle the consequences? Would it differ if it were your son, or if it were your daughter? I mean when he or she brings up "that" topic

Why do you think cheating may save a marriage? An episode on nightline or 20/20 claims that research shows cheating saves marriages. Do you t hink this is true?

How can i save my marriage? Where can i get help to save my marriage because is heading for a crash......

How to get rid of my troublesome sister in law and save my marriage? She seems to have psychic problems which is the reason for her divorce I strongly believe. She is creating trouble at home and spoiling my relationship with my Husband and parents in law and portraying me bad in front of the world. And my husband, being an emotional brother is not able to send her out of the house , to live with her parents who stay in another city. My marriage is at the verge of breaking because of this. What should I do? I am not able to withstand the emotional trauma.

Do most Muslims truly save themselves until marriage? How strictly is this observed? does that mean you get married fairly early on like late teans/early twenties? Do most muslims nowadays pretend to be saving themselves just to avoid the stigma from parents/society?

what is the word for wanting to get back your virginity through God and save yourself till marriage???? I lost my virginity a very long time go and there is a word for wanting to save yourself for mariage after losing your virginity but I just can't think of it.....

How to save my marriage part two? I asked a question yesterday on how to save my marriage, most people told me talk to my husband , start counseling. Well to inform everyone I went to counseling myself yesterday as well as my husband and I signed up for marriage counseling which will start shortly. My husband enrolled in a anger management class given he believes he will need more help keeping his cool. So thank you to all who answered and if anyone has anything else that might help that would be great.

My wife thinks marriage is to much work andwants to seperate, what can i do to save our marraige? she thinks because we may argue at times our marraige is not working out and i want to work on things whith her but she won't I love her more than life and want to save my marriage

Is it possible to save a marriage when your spouse does not know what she wants? this will be my last question.intended for those of you out there who have been throught something like this.I have been married 14yrs I'm 32 and my wife is 33.we are still married and she is up north living with her parents but coming home soon or so she says.I found out she is having an affair with some guy in his twenties who lives with mommy and seems to be whispering candy in her ear.I'v givin her affection support and never abused her in anyway.we have a house together and 2 beautiful children together ,a daughter 12 and son 6 who she has taken with her to see her secret love,thats a big no,no dont we all agree?any way she can't seem to make up her mind at times about wether she is coming or staying up there,maybe because this guy has no foundation and is supposedly going through a divorce.she does suffer from deppresion and drinks alot.can I save my marriage,I want to,remember we have 14 yrs history together and I do not want to start all over agian.I want to grow old with them

How do you save a marriage after an affair by your spouse? My wife recently disclosed she has been having an affair for the last three months and wants to pursue this guy and end our marriage of 17 years. How can I reason with her?

How come people always tell you to save sex until marriage? But don't. How do you explain all the previous sex partners most woman have if they are supposedly "saving it" for marriage?

What should we do? Keep trying to work it out and save the marriage, or divorce and save ourselves? I tend to run away from responsibility, Ive struggled with depression all my life. Knowing this, my best friend, against my pleading, fell for me and talked me into dating her and then into marrying her. I mistaked "not knowing what I want" for "I can handle anything" and we married. I told her before we even started dating I knew a few things, like I dont want kids (she does) and I dont want to live in this area (she does). Didnt faze her. She was driven to do good things back then, plus she was hot. Since we got married 5 years ago, weve degraded drastically. Im sure my depression has brought her down. Shes given up changing the world and shes gained a lot of weight. I was frugal and never had any debt before we married. Now were $30,000 in debt and we live on her parents property. Ive never done the manly thing before. What should we do? Keep trying to work it out and save the marriage, or divorce and save ourselves? No one in her family has ever divorced and no one in mine hasn't. I should add that we are both in our mid 20's, working and going to school. Also that my relationships before her tended to die out when I stopped calling, a tribute to my lack of manliness, fear of responsibility and history of depression. She had no romantic relationships prior to me, which leads me to believe she persists in loving me out of guilt for wasting her love on me initially. We do not have children yet.

Is it right to have a baby just to save a marriage? I'v posted a few questions about my husband and I being unable to carry a pregnancy (3 miscarriages, 1 stillbirth in 2 years) and my DR wants me to give up because it is playing havoc on my hormones in my body and she's concerned about my mental health. I want to give up too. Adoption is still an option and we are signed up for it and on the waiting list. We still do need to raise a few thousand dollars before we can go onto the next step though, but I'm going to be 40 soon and thinking of shutting this whole thing down. Many people are saying that in order to save my marriage I should do ANYTHING to get a child, whether its surrogacy, in vitro, (woudlnt work, I can't carry a pregnancy) or asking a family member to have one for me. I'm not sure how correct this is...if my marriage is going to fail if we don't have children, then is it really fair to put the whole success of the marriage on to a poor innocent child? What do you think?

What would you have done to save your marriage? There was a time I would have done or overlooked or to be honest not only agreed but I would have enjoyed the other side of the woman I was married to, but now I don't think I would answer the phone to save the marriage. You kick a dog enough times and he leaves... Just to answer the lket me guess group. We were under twenty-five when married... Made over 6 digits for income... Shared chores most of the time... Lasted eighteen yrs Had two children We went to church regularly.. We forgot to communicate but we had something that was unique.... Dog Owner??? Whats up with the prostitution thing? I never betrayed my wedding vows, she did at every turn, even posting up on web sites for sex and having sex with both of my brothers one of which is the father of her baby due on our wedding anniversery...

Has anyone ever had a marriage counselor save their marriage? I know a dozen couples that tried this route and all of them failed to to save their marriage. It seems that all that ever happens is they prolong their agony. Has it worked for anyone...I'm talking years not days, weeks or months?

Why do some many women think having a child will save there marriage?