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Do you think relationships between Black Men and White women ever work??

I was married to a black man (I am white). We divorced after 4 years. That has been 12 years ago. But still, from then until now.....I have yet to see a successful relationship in this category. Any ideas? I don't know if maybe the every day pressures of being married, combined with the cultural differences, and the society judgement make these marriages harder. Not meaning to put emphasis on color....because I have a beautiful daughter, whom I would like to change the world for....end color judgement. My husband and I were married in a military town in Colorado, but then moved to a small town in Tennessee......very racial place. May have had some influence, I don't know....... I love you Free and Equal and you too, Sparks!

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I have a couple that I know not that well where there's a black man and a white woman -- and they seem to get on well. I'll bet there are those that work. Admittedly, it can be challenging for the families because sometimes people (esp the older generations) see the skin as different before they get to know the person. I think love can always work.
havent found out just yet not good so far but i dont tink its a black and white thing either white black mexican they all piss me off and enough is enough
Yes, it can work. It may depend on what part of the country you live in. If people make you feel uncomfortable, it puts pressure on the marriage. I live in the NW and it really doesn't matter what race or nationality you marry or date.
Don't see why not. I know some multi-cultural marriages that are going strong up to now.
yeah, stop mixing. i dont support those relationships at all. and obviously you can see why.
Did you get a divorce because your husband was black? If not, I don't think your question is relevant.
Anything can work but when you cross race, education or class lines the odds of success are lower.
My dad is black, my mum is blond (Scandinavian). They've been married for over 40 years! It depends on the people and not so much the skin colour. You can have white couples and black couples that bicker and split up and you can also have interracial couples that bicker and split up. Makes no difference. If you had broken up with a white man, would you also start wondering if all white relationships were problematic?
yes, it works perfectly. It depends on individuals who are married if they have same goals, interests, loving each other, respect each other.care for each other. Alot of them works better because nowaday I see more black men going for white women or mexican women. I have a couple of friends of mine who are now married over 13 years and yet they love each other. I believe the reason as to why Black men seems to be fed up with there Black woman is as a result of stereotyping. So it works more better
Yes, my husband is black and I am white and we have been married for over 12 years. We have 3 children aged 11, 7 and 5 and are extremely happy. I really think people should stop thinking in terms of color - it is the character of the person that makes a relationship work not the color. We met in San francisco,and have lived in Maryland ,Virginia, Florida and at the moment Japan as my husband is in the military.
I think it has more to do with compatability than with race. If you have alot of things in common, religon, common goals, same background and you expect the same thing out of marriage. The problems come when you expect different things and you don't understand each other.
I don't usually get involved with " racial " items, but this time I may have an answer for you, seing as you've been there. You can reply to me if you like, cause I am curious as to how close my answer will be to " actuality ". - First of all, yes this pairing of black and white does work.- i've seen it quite often. I prefer the term " white and colored" .-- If 2 different colored people were put on an unihabited island, they could be happy and have a happy family -- no problem. -- forever. " It is society that ruins these marriages ". People , with racist opinions, perhaps not bye any fault of their own, make it very difficult for multi-colored families to be accepted on "par" as same-colored families, black or white,- red, or yellow. It is human nature, and will probably never change. "what a shame".
Well you have a child together so it has worked out and worked out well ! So be sure to include him in the family and let him have equal responsibility. I have got a black wife, she is so sweet and nice, but there are cultural differences. In ger country (the Philippines) men get drunk and fight and place bets on fighting cocks. Women look after kids and complain, a bit like US and UK but hey, I don't accept this is normal, also in US and UK and Philippines we have good decent GODFEARING families like mine. So there is not really a cultural difference just one of responsibility and equality. I choose to stick with my kids, the wife and to shell out all my cash to look after them well. (But even so there are "friends" of the wife who try to brainwash her and then separate us) but we have none of it ! Because we love each other, we love our kids and we love GOD ! SO we are joined forever ! We have two beautiful children. Inter racial marriage is wonderful and yes, I have to give but I am sure she is giving too. We have a happy life and nobody will ever come between us (but they sure as hell try to) I say bring it on, you'll never separate my family and I am so grateful to GOD I have a job, self discipline and patience. Please try to get back together with your husband, he is the father, in any case you must let hime have equal responsibility and see his kid, because life was so unfair to him to be racially discriminated in Tennesee and you should stand up for equality and your happy family and don't let white trash people come in between you because you have a beautiful child and can have a happy family life ! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOR FAMILY !
There are interracial relationships/ marriages that work out, there are those that don’t. It just like with the same race couples some work out others do not. A relationship of any kind takes work, sacrifice and compromise that is universal to any relationship that is going to last. I have some neighbors black husband, white wife, they have been married 22 years. Sometimes people grow apart it happens but that IMO has nothing to do with race.
Love is color blind. I have seen successful relationships of black and white, white and white, and black and black. Color doesn't matter. Some people just aren't meant to be married to each other. It's on an individual basis, don't stereotype.
Why exactly are you out studying black/white relationships and comparing them? That doesn't make any sense at all. Personaly, I wouldn't mix and I am against it.I say stick amongst your own,but if you are saving yourself for another black guy and will not consider a white guy then maybe you are guilty of being racists against your own race.
My idea is that when you moved to tenn. that was a huge mistake. I married a man from mexico in my home state of illinois. We were fine there. We had a son when he was 20 months old we moved to arkansas. Worse mistake we cud have made. People here were very prejudice and let us know they didnt approve of us. It was bad enough til the kids went to school. Then it was horrible. But we made it thru all that made us closer as a family. After the kids were grown hubby and i divorced but it had nothing to do with the color of our skin. Marriage is hard enough without the hatred from other ppl and thier comments that they seem to want you to hear.. They have no idea just how stupid and ignorant it really makes them.
Overheard during tea talk. This white man who was married to an ultra white women was traveling in a bus. Throughout his trip he was cursing his governor with obscene words "wretched penn**". The conductor objected to his curses. He agreed to stop but after a while continued the cursing. The conductor drove the bus to a police station. The police officer interrogated the man on his obscene curses. The man confessed to him that he is white and that his wife too is white. But recently she delivered a baby which was jet black. The police officer exclaimed: "wretched pen**". He consoled the man on his misfortune and followed him to the bus to convince the travelers about his innocence. When the police officer narrated to him the bare fact all the travelers exclaimed "wretched penn**"
Of course. Any relationship can work if you work at it. I live in a VERY racially diverse family. Almost everyone is married to someone of another race. I will say, though the black man/white woman relationship seems a little harder because of the pressure on black men. They are considered sell outs sometimes if they date/marry white women.
Michele, I have know a lot of couples of mixed color and they seem just fine. In fact, I met a couple this last week that had been together for 33 years here in the N.W. and are still in love today! Sorry it didn't work for you, but I think we are in a different time thank god now and people are just people most of the time. They have to loose that title before I start to see other things about them. Johnny
Lady M yes interracial relationships can last and do succeed but it all depends on the two individuals and their interest for the relationship, if they are in it for the wrong reason such as sex and not being true to their own feelings then failure is a definite,society can be cruel but strength of a couple that care about each other can with stand the stares and glares from neysayers. If you let your life become dictated by what others do as far as their actions then you will never be happy no matter the color of the skin , life is hard so going into a relationship of different races means living and holding strong to your convictions of who you are as a person in this world and not what others perception of you are, as for you responding to sparks19 the word colored is just as derogatory as staring at a couple so the politically correct term is black or african american ,colored is something we do to pictures or water projects( kool-aid) just a little info because i read the response and that didn't set well with me, relationships are built on trust, respect, love, honor truth, these things can carry any relationship that God puts together to the top Remember the vow what God has put together let no man break apart.