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I am dating a successful woman but I am having a hard time finding a job. End the relationship?

I am a 31 year old male. I am a college graduate and am in between jobs. I feel terrible because I lost my job a couple of months ago. I feel like crap when she says stuff about my current situation. Things haven't always been like this for me. Also, I am my grandmother's caretaker and grandma lives with me. It consumes alot of my time. She is 90. I started taking care of her about 3 years ago. I took her off of my parents hands. I felt like it was the right thing to do. Anyways, my girl friend is making cash and I am not. I don't really have alot of cash to do things right now. She is somewhat of a consumer spender type. I am the type that budgets what I have. I want to pursue the relationship, but I feel that this is a roadblock. Should I try to end the relationship? She just became successful too. She found this job through a friend who referred her. She is somewhat underqualified for the position and does not have a degree. What gives??? Haha.

Public Comments

1. Talk to her man, the only way. And if you two really like eachother, you will get through this tough time.
2. I was in a simular situation. what i did was thank her for everything she paid for and told her it will come back to her when the situation is better. And it did. we had good times and got through it. Relationships arent about money and either should love. Just be yourself and keep it real.
3. If this woman is talking to you in a way that makes you feel like crap, then I think you have already answered your own question. What do you mean by your last sentence, "Should I try to end the relationship?" Do you somehow feel like she has started to end it & you want to finish it BEFORE she does? If so, then do it, because nothing is worse than a person who feels the need to on-up the other in a "dumpee/dumper" situation. You can get another woman, but you'll never get another Grandmother. If you gave your word to your Family first, then you will be doing yourself a dis-service by going back on your word. Your word is your bond. If this woman (or any other) can't relate to what & who you are, then you gotta ask yourself WHY you are staying with this person. If it's for her cash, then that will only make you feel like a bigger jerk. Money does factor into it, but you gotta go with granny. After she dies, you'll be able to live with yourself because you did what was right. No woman or man should ever get in the way of family. This shows lack of compassion. What will happen if you get sick or injured someday? Will she leave you, or stick by you, & help you? Why not ask her these questions & see how she answers you! I don't need the points, but I did feel the need to get my thoughts on this matter in print for others to read. Many families are facing similar issues because rest homes are expensive & they treat patients poorly. You aren't alone in taking on this massive endeavor. By the way, you have taken on the role of caregiver, which is traditionally a womans job. As a result, your woman now has stepped into a male role, being the breadwinner & working outside the home. Don't sell yourself short for staying home & being a caregiver because it is a very important role that most of American Society overlooks & ignores. Your parents taught you well & the world needs more people who have morals & values when it comes to aging people. Don't be so proud as to not ask for help if you feel you need it from an outside agency. Good luck!