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People always leave me....?

I am a 20-something woman and I feel so alone in the world. I just want to cry. I don't have any real friends and I am not close to my family. Sometimes I'll make a "friend" or find what I think is a nice man only to have them disappear without warning in a short time- I think the relationship between this friend/man is going well and the next thing I know- they've abandoned me. I go back and replay the events of our acquaintance and can't imagine what I did to make them leave me without even saying goodbye or telling me. I feel like I'm always trying to start over in meeting new people. I'm at the point where I'm scared of trying to interact with others/make new friends because I fear they will not want to be around me after a while. As a result, I'm always on edge and lonely.I have a routine of just going to work and coming home. My life is so lonely and empty. I don't know what to do. I would like to have a few close friends and successful relationships. Someone please help. I'm a woman- this happens with female friends as well as potential boyfriends I'm not talking about only men. All of my female friends dumped me also, which hurts a lot. I'm not trying to pursue a romantic relationship with them.

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You're not alone...I used to have similiar situations where I would make the best of friends and they would leave. Randomly. Without a word. They'd fine "other" friends or someone else more "fun." But you know. I've finally realized that in this world that there are two kinds of people. People who fly "first class" or in "coach." Well, to be honest, I'm a coach kind of guy. I'm not the most popular kid on the block, or the coolest person you know, but the family and faith I hold onto is what keeps me alive. Emptiness and loneliess can healed over time. But don't put all your eggs in potential friends baskets. I once had an awesome mentor. I loved that guy so much. He taught me a lot on how to grow in physical and mental strength, until our friendship fell apart. I became too needy. I wasn't dependent on my own self. He left me because he couldn't handle it. And you know...I learned a lot from that. I began to stand alone and fight my way through every battle that there. I tell you to be confident, be bold, and be strong. There are DEFINITELY people who look up to you whether it's coworkers or families. Be an example. Try to inspire others rather them having inspire you.
Maybe you are too needy. Find yourself, and be happy with what you have. Perhaps then people will want to be around you, when you project a positive energy.
do some volunteer work or join a group like at a church or synagogue to stay busy it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all i've been dumped several times
Depression pills sounds very needed...
Your self description is helpless and hopeless. Gather up your strength and make an appointment with a counselor and/or Doctor. You should not have to suffer like this when your depression can be treated. Good people are out there and good doctors can give you the tools to help you. Don't be afraid. So many people have been exactly where you are and are feeling better today. You deserve to feel better too.
I understand exactly where you are coming from.I dont have any real friends either anymore.Im a stay at home mom so I guess Im always too busy with my toddler,then I find myself thinking I have no friends anymore what happened.I suggest you go to a church,start volunteering somewhere(humane society if you love animals)or get a hobby you always wanted to try to do.I just decided to start babysitting that will give my daughter a new friend and maybe me too!I would also suggest you talk to a counselor too,It will help you understand why your relationships arent working.(I know because Ive been there you sound like you need a self-esteem boost):)good luck
I want you to read a poem. It's my favorite poem that I've ever read and it may help you understand why people come and go out of our lives. http://www.steeldog.com/reasonseasonlifetime.htm Another thing for you to think about is, What are you projecting to others. Do you project your fear of them leaving or do you project the appreciation of friendship. We get what we think most about in life so try to start thinking about having the type of relationships you most desire.......Say to yourself everyday, I am so grateful that I attract people into my life that love and support me and want to remain in my life. (whether it's true or not, repeat this statement until you believe it, when you believe this statement it will be true). Good luck to you, and know that you are not alone in this feeling of being lonely, but you have the power to change it.
You will find the right person ... It sounds as if you already turn the "beginning" of what could be a friendship into a relationship quickly. You keep referring to the men as friends but make it obvious that you wanted more than that. Best advice, take one small step at a time .. truly become friends without romantic attachments right away. Some times when ppl move too fast its because they have protected their hearts for so long with walls that it feels so good to be excited about someone again that they leap too quick. You are very young and should be enjoying life & not worrying about your future bf or husband. Once you start enjoying life for yourself the men will follow. Promise ; ) OK, sorry ... still you need to not worry about them as much and start doing new adventures in your life. Just try, don't give up easily hun & good things will happen when you start living. My best to you ; )
It's all in the attitude! You've gotten some great advice! Learn to love yourself! and you will know better how to love others and accept their love! Don't despair... you are very young! and haven't learned the importance of obeying the commandment to love your neighbor as YOURSELF yet! That's all... Read your bible and make God your best friend! which is the best anyone can have!
I often feel the same way although I dont often have the courage to talk about it I also know doctors and religion are not the answer for me personally, I just keep the faith that this is a temporary stage in my life and will pass Take care and stay positive, your not alone, no one is, thats why I like to keep my email link on here so everyone can talk to me in person if they want I really hope for you in a years time all this will just be a memory Best wishes from the UK Dave
Hey I'm 40 something guy, and I'll tell you something...I used to feel just like you and every once in a while I still do. But when I do, I pray about it, give it to God, place all of your fears, all your doubts, and all your trust in God and he will help you to feel better. But.....you must completely trust in him. Do you trust in God? If you want to feel better you must, you see we all have our little doubts, we want to believe but we never hear or see any real solid in our face proof that God is there but I 'll tell you something he is, I have felt his presence, he's even saved me more than once from my own stupidity. I was in the navy and I was akinda service man I worked with aircraft on a carrier and I was below decks in the hanger bay and I was climbing onto an A-6 Intruder, it's a medium bomber (has been decomissioned since I was in the navy) I have for gotten why I was up there it's been 13yrs. since I was in, but I was up on this aircraft and I was coming down off the aircraft when I lost my grip. Now the air craft was placed next to some "yellow gear" which is things like engine racks, bomb racks, jacks, and towbars for aircraft manuevering while on deck. These things can impale you if you land on them the wrong way, now on the other side there was something else, I don't remember what it was because that is not the side I went up or came down on, it was the side the "yellow gear" was on. So I came down off that airplane and I lost my grip, I fell, I knew what was below me, so I thought for sure I was dead. Now there wasn't much room for people to pass on this side of the craft in fact there wasn't. But as I fell I thought to myself well Lord here I come. And you want to know what happened next, this short redheaded sailor was underneath me, caught me, fell with me onto the yellow gear and onto the deck of the hanger bay. I looked at him he just smiled at me got up and dusted himself off, I was in shock I asked if he was ok he just smiled and said yea turned and dissapeared into the crowd. I looked for him everywhere on that ship after that I never saw him again I wanted to thank him for saving my life but I think he knows. This my dear is how God helps us sometimes when we least expect it. I'm not telling you to go and throw yourself off or into something just to see if God is paying attention, God doesn't work that way, but if you trust in God, really completely trust, then good things do happen. Did I ever tell you what puppy love is, well let me tell you. Puppy love is just that....puppy love, unadulterated love, there are no conditions, there are no prejudices, no stipulations, no only ifs. Just love, pure, simple, adoring love. True love. Not the, I love you or him or her because he/she is hot! Or I look good when I am with her/him. I love him/her because.... It's just pure, true love. like the love of a small child, a baby, innocent, sweet, faithful, trusting love. That is puppy love, true love. At least that is the way I see it. Now back to God, when you feel you can't tell anyone how you feel, as you said you have no real friends, and you are not close to your family, trust in Jesus I forgot what book or paragraph or chapter it was in, but it went something like this when you are alone, and when you feel that even your own mother doesn't care. I still will be there for you, ever faithful ever loving. Something to the sort you see I remember bits and peices of that reading cause I not infallable either. But I still believe and I have to everyday or else how can I call myself a christian. So my dear you are not alone in the world, God is with you always, you just have ask for his help, his guidance, you may not get a direct verbal response such we impatient, people are used to, but you will get an answer. Thing is are you willing to accept his will, sometimes as the old song goes, thank God for unanswered prayers. I hope I 've been of some comfort or help to you and if not well I still wish you the very best. God be with you.