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I feel like wont an addiction free life more than my wife please help!!?

My wife is working on overcoming a sleeping pill addiction need advise. I told her that I wonted a divorce that I could no longer live with the lye and deception. She told me she would do anything to keep me. I told her I wonted her to go to a 30day rehab program she agreed. We set up a meeting with her therapist for later that day. The therapist did not think that she would qualify because she was not currently using and that her problem was not to that level. I said the I would like her to do an out patient program and make some big life changes and relay work on this addiction problem. She said she should start going to 12 steps AA meeting. So my wife stated this she has been going for two weeks 3 meeting a week I wonted her to do 90-90 but after the next therapy session with her therapist she said that in our rural are it is nearly imposable to go to that many meeting that 3 meeting a week would problem be enough. She also thinks that I am trying to hard that I just need to back of my wife and let her do what she feels she needs to do. I wont this to be the most important thing she has ever done I don’t feel that we can get on with our life until this is delt with. I don’t wont to be with her if I cant trust. I feel that is the bases for a successful marriage. Her therapist thinks I am way off the mark and she has been telling my wife that I am to involve in the process and need to back off. I think that the therapist treatment isn’t the most beneficial for the process (she is using unconditional positive regard) due to the relapse that my wife has had. How do I deal with? Is it OK to question what she is doing? I don’t feel that my wife is giving it her all. How do I find the balance of pushing to get results and giving up and walking away? Have you ever been hear? What are your experiences? I am frustrated, confused and tired any advice would be nice

Public Comments

1. You are trying to punish your wife. It sounds a bit cruel. Forgive her, rememeber you're not perfect either.
2. Sorry, I can't seem to get past the horrible spelling.... It is wanted, not wonted.....
3. LEAVE HER THE HELL ALONE. DAAAAAAAAAAANNNNNG.
4. just tell her you are going .. good by .. or do the re ab now
5. She was having problems sleeping and she took speeping aids to help her sleep and you call that a problem I think you have a problem control freak
6. you cant make her stop...you need to decide if you want to be with her or not.
7. Your wife has a good therapist. You need to back off, buddy. Rome wasn't built in a day, and instead of criticizing her, you should be supporting her. Pill addiction is an illness. Remember "in sickness and in health"? Your new nickname around the house should be "Old Reliable" since you're anything but. I hope you are treated with more compassion when you become ill.
8. It sounds like she is working very hard at this.......it may be more beneficial to her if you start being supportive rather than just critical. She's following the advice of the therapist....what more do you expect? This cannot possibly be changed overnight.
9. You need to get counciling as well, and you can not push your wife because she could just say the hell with it and start using again.
10. What I hear is "YOU want, YOU want, YOU want." It seems to me -- AND by your own admissions -- that you wife IS trying to meet your increasingly excessive demands, and you just keep setting the poor woman up to fail. IF you really love her -- and I'm starting to wonder here -- then you NEED to support her efforts, not knock her down and making things IMPOSSIBLE for her. It also sounds to me that regardless if your wife becomes a Canonized SAINT, you're not going to be happy with her. If you WANT a divorce THIS badly, then just do it and leave the poor woman to her recovery.
11. For better or for worse......she has a illness(yes addictions are an illness) Love her be there for her!