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How do I convince my mom I can balance out my education and a boyfriend?

Because my mom (and my dad, but he's not exactly the problem here) grew up in China, she never really had the time to have a boyfriend because education is so big in China. But I don't live in China, I live here, in America, where education isn't nearly as strict. Of course, because she grew up like that, she thinks that *I* also can't balance out a boyfriend and my education. When I asked if I could have a boyfriend, she almost automatically opposed the idea. Why? She told me I would have to choose between my future or this boy. She also tried to make me feel bad about my boyfriend (who is a really sweet, nice, and funny guy; but she tried to tell me that he wasn't "superior" to me in anyway...) I am 14 years old, the WORST grade I have ever gotten since 6th grade (middle school) has been an A- and that was on a midterm. Every single final grade I've gotten is an A. I am in our school district's Highly Capable Learner's Program. I play the violin and the piano. I have done everything my mother has ever told me to do (except, maybe, clean my room). She still doesn't trust me. She refuses to allow me to get to know a boy that closely. I do not understand. How can I get her to see that I'm not a little girl anymore? That she hasn't given me the chance to try or do anything? That I can balance my life out?

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1. Try as hard as you can to tell her that you will still focus on grades and she will probably understand. She was probably put in that situation too before.
2. Tell her that if you get one B, you will dump your boyfriend. Yes, it sounds harsh, but if you want her to believe you, prove it and sacrifice not being able to date if you fail.
3. Ask her if she would give you a "trial run" at trying to balance the two. Say maybe a quarter or semester -- and prove to her that you can keep the responsibilities of your grades up and do you chores, etc., while having a boyfriend. Tell her if your grades drop you will abide by her wishes and not get close to this boy until you're older. Good luck!
4. omg i have the same problem cept, its my dad.like i do good in school and all but he doesnt want me wit a boy till after school. my mom wants me to have one, but its my dad. huh. i feel your pain.
5. What you told me, so sad!, but so true w/ alot of parents, is that they dont want to see you grow up, and if you prove you are more adult to have a bf, w/out telling them straight way they will let you have it. but you have to show them, for a month-week, clean your room w/out being asked, do everything they ask and what they dont but you know is right