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How can i be happy about my life without compliments from others?

im not a superficial person and try 2 make everything fair. but im not happy now. i feel happy when ppl compliment my things and i feel it adds value to it. otherwise i dont feel adequate about that certain thing. plz give me some intellectual answers

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1. There is nothing wrong with wanting / needing the acceptance and approval of others. Some need it, some don't. Those that don't are usually comfortable with themselves and don't require the acceptance or validation of others to be happy.
2. you have to have confidence in yourself....i never get comliments but i keep my head up high and compliment myself.....and another thing is that you have to learn to love yourself because you i can tell right now that you have a lot to offer the world.....live your life and love it =] Peace
3. By far this question would have to be one of the best because this is what we girls or Ladies think about and just dont listen to others and there views they cant live ur life
4. approval addiction
5. Happiness can never come from other's compliments, our looks, our accomplishments. Why? Because anything coming from outside ourself cannot make us happy. Sure they can alter our mood for a little while but we can never get enough as we seek approval. The key to happiness lies in good character and an inward search as all the truly important answers for our life rest within. It's important you come to recognize that anything anyone says to us by way of approval or disapproval is simply their opinion, and opinions are generally worth about what they cost you. To learn more about the way you tick I'm suggesting you find and read Color Code, by Taylor Hartman; Feeling Good, by Dr. Burns...maybe even read Toxic Parents as well as material on co-dependence. Even if no one in your family drinks including grandparent's, etc., you might try attending Al Ateen Meetings if you're a teenager or Al Anon if you're an adult. These meetings can build anyone's self-esteem. They meet weekly, they're free and they last an hour. You don't even have to talk if you don't want to. These meetings are for those affected by someone else's drinking or, for that matter, dysfunction. I assure you things can get better. We can come to love ourselves unconditionally and learn to live without need of constant approval and reinforcement from others. Don't get me wrong. All of us like compliments but it is unhealthy to need them to momentarily feel good about ourself. The fact that you're questioning things tells me you're the type of individual who can make the journey to living a life guided from within not without. Make the effort. You can do it. Perseverance is "always" rewarded. Good luck and God bless.