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What keeps a couple happy in their marriage today?

We know that society has a high divorce rate. This question I am about to ask is only for folks who have been happily married for at least ten years. What is it in your marriage that keeps you and your spouse happy in which you two want to stay married to each other forever? In other words, what are you and your spouse doing that may differ from the marriages that go stagnant?

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1. In other words, what are you and your spouse doing that may differ from the marriages that go stagnant? .....Simple........good relationship skills! LOL........try it!
2. Individuality, tolerance and distance. Common interests, sense of humor and friends help too.
3. 1. Get married for love, not because someone got pregnant or because your parents like your partner, and dont mistake love for being lonely. 2. Have a healthly sex life before marriage. 3. Continue your healthly sex life after marriage. 4. Laugh. 5. Communicate and be honest no matter what. 6. Never go to sleep with an unfinished arguement. I have a lot of others but this is a good start.
4. Stay close to your church and get involved with church activities and volunteering. Learning is a life-long process. Read your Bible regularly and meet with other folks who do the same. No magic, it's just God blessing on your marriage.
5. Many people forget that Marriage is something you have to work at and something that you are suppose to be GROWING in together. The "honeymoon" period isn't suppose to wear off. Marriage today is not thought of in the right way.. people just say I do to simply say it and have a big wedding... or a big party more or less and get dressed up. Marriage is suppose to mean so much more. It's a life long journey.. for better or worse, you plan to do things share in life and have ups and downs along the way. I've been married 9 years and love my husband very much. We've had our share of trials.. one of which we recently lost our last child... a little girl who was only 3 months when she passed. Some of our "worst" have been very hard.. to the point that you just want to leave, but in the long run.. REAL love is what holds you together. Real Love is out going concern for the other.. you do everything you possibly can to make the other happy.. not in a greedy way.. find out what your husband likes.. or your wife do the things that they enjoy. You keep happy in marriage if both parties are GIVING and LOVING one another. My husband and I still "date" After all when you are first dating someone you spend as much One on One time with them in the beginning.. you do things together.. have a nice meal at a restaurant, and "put your best foot forward" you dress up and keep yourself in shape and not that you "stay" as you are, but your first kindled love is when you meet the person.. you are ATTRACTED by looks.. and then the personality.. it's important to stay as fit as you can after marriage.. many let go and get overweight and cause a lot of "looking" at others to happen. You will change in maturity and personality as you get older, but the fun, spontaneity, joyful, excited person you once were when you were first dating and interested in one another has to stay there.. other wise you'll loose interest! Keep dating even after your married. Make a conscience effort to go out once a week and do something alone. Have a meal, go "have a date" Good luck
6. I was about to give a fun answer and I come to read the comment by " Play with...". I wonder why he has received 3 thumbs down versus mine when what he has said is the truth and nothing but the truth. Here, people specialize in bedroom activities and too many are graduated from the Porn University. However, we only read trouble after trouble no matter how kinky can be the sex life. Trust me, " Play with squirrels " laid the fundamental for a happy living but, unfortunately we usually answer to a fleshy craving. May I tell " my fun story" now as I share the secret of my long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant twice a week. A little candlelight dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes on Tuesdays and I go on Fridays.
7. Communication, date nights, checking in, thinking of the other person first, not taking work home with us, red wine, lingerie, Zestra, and weekends away with "the boys" or "the girls". Emma and Boo
8. i think mutual respect for the others feelings play a big part pf it ,,,but its always wanting to see your mate happy that will keep the other working at it..throw some love in and youve got it made
9. Well...the main reason you marry the person you marry is because you "supposedly" love everything about them. Many things have changed from back then to today's society. But yeah, if you truly love your partner and everything they're made of, you should be together forever practically. Lol. People who have been married 10+ years, maybe go somewhere for their anniversaries and just take some time for themselves every now and then. Life's short. <3
10. I have been married 15 years, although we did have some rough times, we have learned and are marriage has never been better- we are truly best friends and have brought DATE night back into our lives- Read this, May help! http://www.ehow.com/how_5119521_make-relationship-marriage-work.html