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Money and dating.... my goodness how does this work?

I am seeing a man who is kinder than anyone I know. He is thoughtful and considerate but he is always broke. We know each other long enough now that I finally broached the issue and his explanation is reasonable. He has some medical bills a couple of credit cards from getting through that time nothing really big---but his income is not enough to keep the place afloat. He works a 2nd job most of the time but since both a min wage he scrapes by. I feel bad for him but I am too old to dig him out. He works long hours and never gets ahead. he stays happy finds plenty of things to do for free...but frankly it drives me a little crazy... life costs money. I am spinning my wheels because I really enjoy his company but I dont have the funds to just pay for him every time we do anything..... I dont see any signs of this changing any time soon. do I just give it up? why is it so hard to find a balance? just a normal little life thats all I am looking for.....

Public Comments

1. He is financially insecure, and will most likely always remain that way (especially since he doesn't seem to have a problem with his lifestyle). He has shown you what he "has to offer", so you can either take it or leave it. If I were you, I would call it off and try meeting other guys. This relationship will just be more of a hassle than anything else in the long run.
2. Well it sounds like it's time for you to move on as this is most likely a deal breaker for you. We all want someone who is stable and good with money...but there are GOOD men out there who just aren't. My boyfriend is terrible with money. Terrible. He's 31 and I'm 26 and I am much more stable than he is. I pay for most things...sometimes it really gets to me but then I put things into perspective...he is wonderful with everything except for his finances. So we are going to work together to get his bills paid off and save money. This is a personal choice and some people may not think it's wise...but he's moving into my place and giving me the money. This way I can make sure everything gets paid and we have a savings to get a new place. It just boils down to what you can live with and how badly you want things to work. You should not feel bad if this is not the lifestyle you want.