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A Happy Birthday greeting for a dying sister-in-law?

My sister-in-law is dying of cancer and she has a birthday coming up. How and what do I write on her birthday card ? I can't write "Happy Birthday" as it certainly is not a happy occasion. Please don't generalize.

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1. Don't remind how shes gonna die! Write a poem like I love your smile I love your laugh I love blah blah blah Tell her something funny is always nice!
2. Say I hope that you are feeling better and I love you on it!
3. Many older people never know if there will be another birthday to celebrate and yet they do celebrate each year. Happy Birthday is the standard greeting for a birthday. Perhaps give her a couple of different cards, one more feeling-card that shows that you appreciate her special qualities, and a couple of humourous cards to keep it happy and light-hearted. To treat her differently than others, would likely make the day more upsetting for her and put the focus on her dying, which wouldn't be fun. Help her enjoy some happy times on her special day and celebrate her coming into your life and the world. Perhaps briefly share a favorite memory that shows your appreciation of her. You might remind her of how special she is and tell her that she is always in your heart, thoughts, and prayers. And ask if there is anything that you can do for her or that she wants or needs to let you know. A card can be signed ' Happy Birthday --name, Wishing you a special day filled with love. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. Much love Always, --