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Cutting remarks from a female colleague? Why is she doing this?

I've been contracting in this job for 9 months now. The job is much more junior to what I've been used to (I was in Management) but I looked for this level on purpose to avoid long hours and much stress I used to experience. Also I like to work hard for months then take breaks & travel. I am single & this is the life I live. A couple of months ago, a married female colleague said to me 'you know temps will find it difficult to get work now with the recession'. I mentioned one day that I'd love a shopping assistant (joking), she said 'ah, I have one, are you jealous?'. She also told me that I seem to know a lot about a lot of things, that I should take up knitting instead of reading economic articles. She said she used to knit when she was single & bored. I replied 'oh, I'm not a bit bored'. She is always throwing sickies. I've only had 2 days ill in 9 mths. The fact is, I'm much more qulified than she is. I travel more, speak more languages and generally am more balanced. She is married, 3 kids. Why is she full of jabs? Is it bullying?

Public Comments

1. I guess u should consider yourself lucky. I hear and over hear that kind of stuff at least monthly in my current office. I always figured it was business as usual, especially with a female supervisor (that might not be the most qualified) that has very qualified or very hot ladies working for her. Especially if anybodies new. I've seen that go on for 30 years in 4 different careers. She probably got a look at your resume? Cheers
2. your thinking too much sly,it doesnt matter what she thinks.really it doesnt ,any one person has millions of thoughts and they are fleeting and generally meaningless. enjoy ,appreciate,relax.stop counting and comparing.
3. the world is full of assholes-sounds like she is one of them.
4. A friend of mine who is a psychologist has a saying. "Every upset is the result of reality not meeting your expectations. When you get upset don't try to change reality. Change your expectations." The reality is she is rude to you. You are probably expecting respect. Especially since you are used to a management position. Don't expect that if you find the answer as to why, it will change reality. Expect her to take jabs at you and deal with her accordingly. She does not respect you. Not everyone will. Accept this and you will stop your upset when it happens.