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Can I have a successful relationship with both a guy and a girl?

I have been with my husband for 6 years, and he knows and is comfortable with the fact that I am bisexual. Lucky for me, he is not one of those guys that is always trying to fulfill some fantasy through my preference by always pushing for a threesome, because I can not stand that. We are very open and honest with each other, so when I began to feel that I really was missing being with a good girl I came to him about it. We came to the decision that I could have a girlfriend, as long as she knew that our marriage would have priority if things came to that, and that my husbands opinions would be respected. Like I said, he wouldn't be trying to get in the middle of this, because it would be a relationship between me and her. But if he ever felt uncomfortable I would break things off with her. I love my husband very much, and we have a fantastic sex life, it's not like he isn't fulfilling my needs, but there is a difference between each relationship, and I think I am just missing the feeling of being so closely connected to another female, if that makes sense? But I won't go out to clubs looking for girls, because I don't think he would be comfortable with that, but I don't even know where I could find a girl that would be down for that type of relationship. I have a feeling it would be easier for a girl who also had a boyfriend to get in a relationship with me, because we would understand the boundaries, but I wouldn't want her man thinking I was going to give him play. Even so, I don't know how to even find a girl like that! Any ideas? To Chase- I am a Christian thank you very much, but just because my sexual orientation differs from yours does not give you any right to pass judgment on me (which btw, is a very un-Christian thing to do). I do not feel like getting into some religious debate, but I would just like to say that I am more in tune with the new testament than the old, find it to have more relevance now, and if you truly are such a focused Christian you will know why I say that. if not, then you are just another closeted bi-curious male who is obviously in denial about his curiosity about men, but fulfills it by cruising the LGBT post lists. If you truly did not agree with the lifestyle or didn't have an active curiosity/interest in it, you would have just ignored this section all together. Good luck on coming out.

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1. I would see if both and especially your husband are okay with this arrangement that you want. one party may start feeling insecure and want more from you
2. I think you should just stick to him. It wouldn't be fair to him to have to share you, and you may start to favor one over the other without realizing it. Love should be shared between 2 people only. If you have already been married for so long, I wouldn't risk messing anything up, even if he says he's okay with it. I could understand that that's a hard situation for him.
3. Well, if he's not comfortable with you going out looking for girls, then he's probably not really able to handle you BEING with one. The idea sounds okay to you both, but the reality of it happening can be another thing. I doubt very much that he will remain okay with you seeing a woman. People's feelings can change. And that also means you, too. It is not impossible for you to become very emotionally attached to a woman and then find yourself unable to let her go like you thought you could, even if he is upset by you seeing her... He may even find himself feeling left out or jealous when he didn't think that he would. There are no guarantees that he will be able to handle it or that you will be able to remain in control of what happens between your emotions with another woman. I just don't think that good things will come out of married people adding other lovers into the picture. I have to say I have seen many marriages crumble when they try doing this. I have nothing against same sex relationships because I am a lesbian... Just saying. PS - Ignore the religious nuts. They seem to be like flies on dogmess out here. Us bright people know that not all people are meant to be with the opposite sex. We are meant to be who we ARE.
4. I'm afraid i wont be much help to you here, but i think what your saying is amazing. You and your husband must love each other a lot if he can trust you enough to be cool with this. Good luck on your search!
5. I don't think you should do that because like that other dude said, love should only be between two people. Having to share love really isn't good and it sort of takes the passion out of being with someone. It's just weird and akward. And yes, you could possibly end up loving one more over the other.
6. Obviously your not a Christian, so i recommend becoming one and following the Lord, he made it so girls and guys are together, not girls and girls or guys and guys, i personally do not like gays, ill pray for you, good luck becoming straight!
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8. well with matters of relationship and the heart it can get complicated. for me i know it would be hard enough to juggle 2 people be they male or female. then again, you'd be getting the best of both worlds and therefore might satisfy our natural human need for having our cake and eating it too. i'd say go for it. don't let societal standards for things dictate your behavior. i'm a believer that monogamy though ingrained into our culture, is perhaps not natural? however there maybe some merits to what society says. makes me think of stereotypes, they're terrible but they have truth in them. it started somewhere. i'd be interested to know how this goes for you.
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10. So long as you and your partners are okay with it, I see no reason why it matters what goes on in your bedroom. But polyamory only works if all people involved know the rules, and follow them.