Success Happy

I can't find a good balance in my life, I don't know what I want in my life.?

I'm a 90+ student. I have lots of friends and I hang out with them whenever I don't have a billion things to do. I'm a competitive dancer and I'm very involved at my school. But I don't think I'm that happy witih my life. I am always stressed, I go to a private school with a lot of work and I always have to say no to doing fun things because i have to work and i HATE IT. My mom is really obsessed with me doing well in school, she says that "success is the most important thing and survival is an important thing". Well here's the thing, to me happiness is my number one priority. What's the point of working so hard, having no time to do things for me and always being stressed. You only get to live life once so live it to the fullest. How do I get my workaholic mom to understand this? I would rather have an 85% average which according to my mom isn't good but be happy with my life. I just don't know what to do, because i want to make my life better and be less stressed :( HELP PLEASE

Public Comments

1. I think you are reaping the consequences of the pressure put on you by your Mother. Does that sound right?
2. You're unhappy because you're stressed about balancing everything just to please your mother. So you need to talk to her and tell her, I want your approval on my work, but I just can't do this all, I'm feeling overwhelmed.
3. The lesson is that people who work hard in life get the most out of it. I think its great you have a 90+, that's something to be proud of. Success, survival, and sleep. make sure you're getting enough sleep as this could lead to you're felling bogged down. See your doctor about how much sleep is right for you.
4. Knowing what you want in life is INCREDIBLY important. Success is what you are aiming for. The question is: What is success? In your mom's case it seems to be having a degree and getting good money, my personal definition is NOTHING like that. I suggest you define success for yourself, know that you may not be able to be superhuman, but you can do your best. And yes, if you don't enjoy life, what is the point(unless there is an afterlife, in which case I suggest searching for the truth on the matter). "Most people try so hard to be mature they already have one foot in the grave." Little kids have endless fun, my little brother once, had fun putting CDs in and out of our CD Rom drive...he had endless fun, he could easily do it for 30 mins and not get bored. I have endless fun playing games. And me, I would rather have 0% average and be happy with my life then to have a 100% average and hate life. Enjoy.
5. I'm sad to say it but there is little you can say or do for now. You just have to endure her pressure for a little while longer. Always "mom knows best" and whatever you say will not be given too much weight. You seem to have a balanced outlook on life and I applaud you for it but your mom wants you to have the best in life and sure enough the harder you work now, the less you have to work later. Trust me on that one. If I had used the brains God gave me while I was in school, I could be sitting pretty now rather than busting my back.