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should I stop supporting my mom?

I run a very successful locally owned and operated business and my father is my manager. I make a descent amount of money and don't have too many financial worries. But, my mom just got out of an abusive relationship and had to start all over again, and she found a new apartment a little over a month ago in Sept. and can only pay half her rent, because she can't work due to disability and receives social security benefits. I pay the other half her rent. I send her a check every month, and im getting sick of always giving her money when she asks, and when I refuse she bitches at me makes me feel sorry for her until I give in. It's driving me up the wall. I'm 25 and shes in her mid 40's. Since she supported me all her life, by basically raising me all by herself, she thinks I should return her favor. Should I keep supporting her or stop?

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1. just tell here
2. im in the same boat! just give what u can afford. If u needed her, then you would want her to offer u the same help.
3. You will have to break her out of her needy habit. Unfortunately, as she raised you by herself, she was only doing what a mother has to do. You don't owe her so much that you have to support her every month. It is okay to help out sometimes, but I think she is probably pushing her limit with you! Good luck!
4. Well...I would but that's me. I support my mother now and my mother is very expensive to keep believe me. I created a monster with her, i buy her whatever her heart desires. She decides she needs a new car, i buy it, she shops like you wouldn't believe. I made a promise to my father 20 minutes before he died that i would take care of my mother, i have keep that promise and will continue to until she passes. It weird because my father died in a car accident, its like he knew, i was in another state and i called out of the blue and i made this promise to him. With your mom maybe she should look for a place where the rent is less or maybe look into getting a roommate. If the burden is to much for you to deal with then something needs to be done.
5. i think you should help your mom but she also has to learn to live on a budget. sit with her and help her figure out what is necessary and what is not in her budget. then agree to send her a set amount and if she blows it that's her problem. of course REAL emergence's are different. good luck.
6. If you can afford to do it I say do it. But it is your choice. If you can give her a monthly allowance and explain this is what you have to live off of. You may want to help her find government help with her rent. There are many programs out there. Best of luck One day your mother will be gone and you will miss her so much. Help your mother as much as you can and love her while she is still alive.
7. She is taking advantage of you, with a disability or not. There are many programs out there such as Subsidized housing for people with low income. There are many programs out there for adults with disabilities to help them live independently. You can contact your local Independent Living Center and find out what programs she may be eligible for and to find a listing of subsidized housing. This form of housing is also known as "public housing". They have the person only pay 1/3 of their income and many of these housing have utilities included. I think for YOU and your sanity, you may want to research into these resources. You need to get this burden off of you and have her access these programs. That's what they are there for. She has an option to access them. If she chooses not to, you are not responsible for taking care of another adult.