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How is my soon2be Ex getting away with this?

I am 26 yrs old. Successful, attractive and full of laughter! Soon2be Ex 32, he makes 200,000.00 a year just NOW moved out of his moms house! He currently pays ZERO child support but he was only ordered to pay 200.00 a month! Our Son is now five. 2Bx and I dated, got pregnant, he left me. Claiming "ITS NOT MINE" classic ;) S2BX showed back up for Lamaze class, that I PAID for. To this day, I believe it was only to torture me! He smelt like a brew house. He let me know he was workin with only 2 hrs of sleep and in the same sentence telling me to breath! YUCK. All I wanted was for him to STOP breathing on ME ;) Then my S2BX of course showed his face again in the delivery room! I must say, being pregnant was the happiest I have ever been in my life. And the only thing that made me frustrated was my S2BX. Let me cut to the chase... S2BX and I got back together I was SEVERE post partum/justa big ol BiA. My S@BX wasn't havin it. Which I sort of don't blame him: Do you remember the song by Jessica Simpson....Nothin but a Tshirt on? Well that came on the radio, my S2BX said "damn she's ...I STOPpEd HIM reaL quick by stating J. S. was dating NICK and would never date you and BlahBlahBlah ;) Most guys would laugh or maybe not...But I had just given birth! I went from a size 0 to relying on rubber bands to keep my BIG OL BELLY all safe and sound. Needless to say since that night we have been back and forth... In between all of our breakups we found time to get married! The really bad part is that I was not bonded to my son the way that I should have been. I was always on edge and had severe anxiety. Just an emotional roller coaster for myself but more importantly our son. Every time I start getting things right for myself and son the S2BX is knocking at my front door! And I always fall for it! Keep in mind, my S2BX has gone thru five other women in our sons five years of life. I am not talking about casual DATING. These girls were emotionally involved in our sons life. Summer of 06' I ran into 2 of the 5 girls. Girl #1 we ended up being on the same boat out on the lake; so we chitchat to ease the tension then she tells me how much she missed my son and that she remembered rocking him to sleep when he was a baby, Girl #2 approaches me CRYING wanting to TALK! Meanwhile I'm toasting champagne for my best friends birthday! I toasted and with a smile I turned and listened....she told me she was still madly in love with my S2BX and she missed my son terribly. Before you ask "why I was not home with my son... my son was with his dad [S2BX] EOW. My S2BX also has an addiction to pain pills! BAD! He's still spending ungodly amounts of money on them. He's actually SUPER nice when he's on them but when he cant find any or goes a day without HE'S EVIL or locked in the bedroom with a severe headache or on the toilet constipated! He yells he throws things he's abusive physically and mentally to our son and to me. Then takes a magic pill and he acts like the greatest dad and best Hubby in the world. I go back to him so I know that my son is safe hands, S2bx is not a good person PERIOD but the judge only see's the TABd out happy side of him and the FED UP side of me! My ex needs REHAB my Son needs me THE judge needs...Who Knows! The harder I try the more I seem to fail... Wh? I know I allow him back in but how else can I protect my son? I mean really... If I bring up S2Bx's: Pill problem, Anger Issues, multiple girlfriends (which I could careless about ) just NO SLEEP OVERS when he has our child. Good chance it will back fire. I mean to you I probably just sound like I'm playing the victim of a bad marriage and making all this up.... wish I was. If only our judge could be a fly on the wall!!! That would be the only way anyone could understand any of this. And let me correct myself ... my S@BX was not making this kind of money when they put together the Temporary child support order. At the time he had been working for his DAD then quit the month before our court date and was waiting tables. Then after the decision was made he got his 8-5 back....

Public Comments

1. Way too much...
2. s2bx sounds like a douche. So sorry about your situation!
3. He gets away with it because you let him walk all over you ! Stupid idea to marry him. It has nothing to do with you how much he earns by the way if you are not together. He should be paying for his son though.
4. Ummm.. I'm guessing you are wanting to know how he got away with only having to pay $200/month child support? My guess, since he is making 200k a year, he's pretty dang smart and knows how to hide his income.