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WORKING WITH FAMILY, BEING SUCCESSFUL & ALL THEY DO IS HATE - PLS HELP?

Hey Yahoo - Thanks to everyone for your answers in advance, it is much appreciated!! Ok so i came back to my hometown and am living with my moms, i came back for around 6 months to work and gain experience and of course, money. I am working to be able to pay off my tuition and university in another country. I have just turned 20 a few weeks ago. My dad (who is no longer with my mom, they have been split for 10 years now) has always wanted me to work for him. He owns his own Real Estate company and i decided i need money and his business needs a push as there is no income coming in for him with all his current employees. So in a matter of 4 months i have started a whole new sector, LETTING, which he has never done before. When i started workin he said he will pay me 400 per month - where my brother gets paid 900... which is cool i accepted it cus i made sure that i would make alot of money independantly by renting houses... Letting actually worked and i am doing very well with it considering its a whole new thing, everyone else in the office havent even rented one yet. Now i am working from 8am till 9pm at night, so im not just getting easy money - i am there cus i need to be, i need to pay for university. So when everyone else is sleeping and chatting on computers i am straight working. I only have a few months and i am not only paying uni but moving to another country, i am a 20 year old girl and this isnt easy at all. But i am remaining positive and doing what i have to do. The problem is my dad is paying evvvvvvveryone else with no problem, but has stopped paying me.. as he is seeing i am successful, he decided i dont need his money because i have enough. In other words he rather pay bums who take his money and dont get anything in, rather that his only daughter who is young and trying to get a better life and get a degree and who is actually getting him money. Last week alone he got 1,400 - which i think is good. If i dont get money he wont be able to pay everyone elses wages. I think this is not fair at all and its really getting me down :( What do you think and what would you do? Its as if he is angry that i am successful and is also asking me to pay silly small bills. I have tried to speak to him n he says ''if i had the money u know id pay you'' and when i get him money i ask him are u proud and he says ''yes but i need more, its not enough, i need more'' Thanks for reading xxx

Public Comments

1. OMFG!!! He's using you. What a BAST*RD!!!! I'd quit and do everything on my own and make profit that way. Considering you started the department AND are successful with it, I'd quit and do it on my own if I were you.
2. It sounds like you need to communicate with him more clearly. If you need the money, explain why you need it and what you need it for. If you don't need the money, but want it because you think it would be fair, explain that to him. Your pay should be according to the work you do. At the very least, it should be similar to what your siblings are getting. Ask him what he paid your siblings when they were in a similar situation. If I'm understanding you right, he is making $1,400 a week? Does he have to pay every one from that? That's not a lot of money if he has a family to support. Tell him you understand why its hard for him to pay you, but kindly ask him to pay you what he would pay any one else. On the other hand, if he is providing other things for you like: a car, place to live, and giving you another way to make money, isn't that really like another form of payment? If he wasn't your father, how much would it cost you to get set up the way your father has helped you?
3. It seems as if he is controlling you and it also sounds like psychologically abusive. I would get far away from him even if it means starting again.