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Why do people think they need to be in a relationship to survive?

why? I don't understand Why do majority of people feel like in order for their life to be complete or happy, they need to have companionship or be in a long term relationship or else they feel they can't continue living their lives for any longer? I personally just think that shows weakness. Nobody NEEDS companionship to be happy, humans weren't born to find a "companion" so to say. I believe that having a companion early in your life will only slow you down from your path to success, having to rely on each other and trust one another. Why can't people just learn to rely on themselves and only themselves? I know so many people who go from relationship to relationship, and if they aren't in one they feel depressed and have no will to live. I find this to be extremely pathetic and weak. I have never craved a relationship or companionship, I have never felt the need to become attached to someone or ever came close to being attached, and I have realized how successful I have became in life. So why, so people require companionship in order for their lives to be complete, and why do so many people easily trust others 100%? I do believe you shouldn't trust anyone 100% other than yourself

Public Comments

1. You obviously convinced yourself that you're 100% right, so it's futile to talk some sense into you.
2. Exactly. However, not many will agree with your opinions of course. Everyone is different. We, humans are generally social beings that seek companionship. I wouldn't go so far as to say its a necessity but for some they feel more complete to have someone in their lives. I mean I think one of the reasons for divorces are that people marry out of loneliness & not for the long haul, etc. Personally, if it happens, it happens. I'm not going to lose sleep just because I didn't find someone. I will however admit that its nice to have someone to come home to.. Having said that, I'm content just the way I am.
3. I've wondered this much also, and although it isn't exclusively contributed to western cultures it is where it primarily occurs. Western society reinforces these concepts through various forms of media which taint the ways in which adolescent development occurs. It is ingrained in us at a very early age that because of the traditional family structure that we see depicted on that AT&T family talk commercial or ABC Sunday Night Movie, that true happiness comes in the form of 3's or 4's. Mother, Father, son and daughter. But in reality many children who come out of single parent households become confused by this attributional quality from mainstream media. Instead they are presented with a half-household in which this is all they know and understand. So the cycle they know becomes never ending and continues up through their adulthood. This is why there are so many single parents nowadays, because one or the other person in the relationship sees no apparent need to 'be there' for the upbringing of the children, because thats how they were raised. The cycle is vicious and sadly its getting that much worse in this country in the years to come.
4. Exactly. There is so much more to do than be in relationships. You will have an easier ride towards your career as well not to mention lots of money for yourself. Some people are simply so social that they can't survive without relationships. I often hear that humans beings are social creatures which is not that true really. A person needs to trust himself/herself 100% foremost. People who can't do without relationships and are desperate are of weak character. A lot of people say that to be happy we must be in relationships or in love or have a family but all of them can wait at least because the consequences of wrong decisions are far too great. I was recently told that I will always be miserable in life if I don't marry - - how pathetic. That being said' I am particularly fond of being single.
5. Just because you're satisfied being alone doesn't mean everyone wants to die alone and bitter. Your condescending nature says it all.
6. A lot of things are a factor, low self esteem, needing to feel loved. Loneliness, some people don't have a best friend, or somebody they can really confide in so you can find that usually from being in a relationship. Also, if you've never been in love, then it's hard to understand what you will feel like you're missing when it ends, it's a pretty terrible feeling, that's why many are desperate and will quickly get themselves into another relationship just to avoid the pain. The need to partner off and raise children is built inside us, so we'll always be searching for that perfect person to start a family with. I totally agree that for the most part it is very pathetic to not be able to get by alone, we ALL should, it's just easier said than done.
7. Different people have different needs. Your needs are in the minority, the majority of people are a lot weaker and more dependent than people like you. I used to be like you but now Im slowly becoming like one of them..ugh. Its because we have needs that centre on attention, company, sociability and love. You seem to have colder needs, centring on success, goals, progress, development, money etc. maybe you'll change tho, like I did. I started changing when I got all of those things and still felt empty. I hope for your sake though that you dont!