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How to lead a successful married life? What are tips you will provide the one who is going to get married?

Share your views : My tips to newly married or to those who are going to get married: My tips: Do’s & Don’ts Expectations lead to miseries in life. Many get married to get something from their partner than what they offer. You should know what they do, where they go etc: Both partners should have freedom to lead their life. One partner controlling another leads to misunderstanding. One partner bossing over other leads to irritation. You should know fully about your partner: Sorry leave them alone. Don’t become his parent or school teacher. You don’t have to know them fully. There should be no secrets between partners: Sorry there will be some or the other secrets, don’t try to dig them. Every person has secrets which he cannot share with his partner. You should communicate well and share all your feelings: Please leave them alone. They are not doing counseling. They have married you to lead a happy life, not to hear your stories. He / She should make me happy: This is totally wrong. You should make your partner happy. Don’t suspect your partner. The day you suspect your partner, and then you are at fault. You are not confident of yourself. You are not giving them enough enjoyment, hence you suspect. Marriage is not physical attraction: Don’t take marriage and your partner for granted. Make your self fit and always work towards making yourself beautiful Don’t keep on making comments on the looks of your partner. The way you take care of your self and make yourself should make them feel guilty. Some one wrote to me : My husband will look at me in 20 years and say" your just a beautiful now as you were when we first got married" You are expecting your husband to lie to you. You will never be as beautiful as you were 20 years before. On his own if he says “today you look beautiful”, that means he loves your soul. Don’t force them to do anything. Don’t expect complements from them. Don’t keep on asking them “How do I look today”. Boys marry a girl thinking that she will replace their mother and take care of them. Girls think that he will replace their dad, project them, buy them gifts and pamper them all the time. This is totally a wrong concept. You are going to have a life partner, a friend with whom you will adjust and live. Married life is always give & take. Don’t make your children only love you, your parents and your relatives. Don’t expect your partner to only learn your culture, your life style. You should also learn her culture and life style. Don’t push your partner to earn more. Don’t push your partner decorate the house always to your wish. Expect the least. Today’s attractive partner would not be attractive tomorrow. Your deeds of today would make you look beautiful tomorrow. Hence your first few years of marriage is very important. How good you are to your partner in those years, makes the foundation for the rest of life. What offer for your partner is more important than what you get from your partner. -------------------------------------- Please do star a question, whenever you like one or find it interesting... not just mine -------- A small reminder

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1. LMAO!!! Lucha is that you? Oops! My bad! OK well there is the guy Lucha Mask aka I call him Guido, Ya'll might hit it off really well... You might be able to give him some pointers or you two can compare notes... ROTFLMAO!!!!
2. You kinda answered your own question. I'd say in marriage patience, patience and more patience. Also, only have kids if your marriage is rock solid, because it very hard at first, then they make your lives complete. Also i'd say not to over think it too much. A successful marriage should come naturally to you.
3. Don't go to vegas too many temptations, don't cheat, if you argue you automatically lose so don't even try
4. THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE....A MARRIAGE IS A UNION BETWEEN 2 PEOPLE WHO SHARE A LIFE 2GETHER....U 2 SHOULD HAVE UR OWN AGREEMENT AMONGST ONE ANOTHER...NO ONE CAN TELL U HOW UR MARRIAGE SHOULD BE
5. don't get married if you want a care free happy life
6. So thats it so mmh i c
7. "Communicate and share all feelings: Please leave them alone. Don't become parent or school teacher, you don't have to know them fully." I don't want to be with someone who doesn't communicate well or share his feelings. My husband communicates everything, and has taught me to communicate more effectively, hence, a better understanding of one another. I don't have to guess what's on his mind. I can not believe you're giving this erroneous advice. " You should make your partner happy." Both partners should make each other happy. It's not one sided. It frightens me to think you are giving advice like this to anyone, I can only hope they don't take you seriously. My husband is my best friend, there's a good start.
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9. i think you write your questions too long which are very difficult to read as it seems you are answering your own question so just give a brief description and we will be able to answer you..!!!!!!!!!! sorry i was a bit rude but can't go on reading such a long -2 thing to answer just simple few words...
10. I've already talked for successful & satisfied happy married life in detail. You can read at my profile in similar questions. Be God fearing, positive, polite, sincere to loving relation, sweet & soft in words & actions both, tolerant in all non serious matters, co-operative & helpful in almost all matters. Don't ridicule, insult, snub, scold, taunt, fight, speak loudly & too much particularly in front of outsiders(i.e., in public) & at home too. Don't try to find fault with the spouse which is against basic spirit & passion of marriage concept itself. Explain the difference between you both with love. Discuss anything you want openly in civilised manner. Never use abusive language. Try to learn new things from each other. Divide properly the household works & exchange responsibilities too time to time say after 15 or 30 days to learn. Both must learn saving, budget planning continuously. Go for sightseeing weekly or fortnightly or monthly to some beautiful romantic places & talk at secluded places where your spouse can say what is there in one's heart. Listen patiently feelings, likes, dislikes, genuine desires & demands of the life partner & try to improve continuously. Learn new things you can. Create innovations & changes in daily activities for sustaining interest. Allot some fixed minimum time for entertainment daily. Love each other daily on a soft bed at home on regular basis as compulsory routine say during 9.00 - 9.30 pm first by taking off all clothes from the bodies except underwear & panty & then kiss , smooch, hug ,rub & press different parts of the body of the partner. This reduces amount of lactive acid in muscles, makes both fitter, happier & more enthusiastic. Deep love is most essential part of a couple's life. Make bodies of both slim & strong. Have safe sex regularly if not daily reaching orgasm like passion. Take warm milk with pure honey dissolved in that every time half an hour before having sex. If there is sudden unforeseen tension, have more sexual intercourses. Sex is right of both, very important for strongest possible relation between the two & from health point of view. So, never hesitate in having sex & fully co-operate immediately without fail with the partner if one demands so. Don't disclose private matters & secrets of you both to any third person at all in any matter. Respect each other & relatives of both as much as you can. Never go berserk in positive, negative or tension prone matters. Be open minded & always behave like a gentleman. Take care of healths of both with top priority. These are all practical points well tried, tested & found to be very useful.
11. Your tips are to be carved for ever. Lord Krishna expressed in his life PURE love. He has shown to the world that a love without any impurity can exist between man & woman. His expression of Divine love is misunderstood & misinterpreted Krishna had many women disciples but one favourite Radha. Radha realized that Krishna was interested not in her form but in her soul
12. thanks for sharing your tips though i am married long back still it is good to revive....
13. i think u will have to give ur true love. and make him all times happy. wii not ask him counter qus. he never like it. give him ur feelings. and live like him and then watch he loves u a lot. also care about his family. u have to accept thai his family is now urs. feel them happy and cares tham
14. Hi there. well, im Gayathri i answered one of ur Q n u commented on it. bt sadly i cldnt edit my Answer to reply to tht comment of urs. im nt here to answer u for this Q. my reasons for nt liking marriage is based on wht i feel abt today's lifestyle of most people. n reasons y people (most n nt all) get married. i dun like those reasons n i dun feel like sharing it here. thts d reason y i dun like marriage. im nt against other's who loves n dieing to get married. bt this is wht i am. i am happy d way i am n nt feeling to trade it for anythin else. im plannin to go for adoption n wanting to be a mother. a single mother tht is. this is hw i am n i think there is nuthin wrong nor different about it. if some do think tht i came frm a broken family tht made me be this, thts totally wrong coz my parents love each other very much n im filled with their love. bt for me, as my life is concern....marriage isnt d most important thing in life. well, sorry to leave u such answer which is nt relevant to this Q. its jst to retify certain things. have a nice day...
15. You gave very good advice. Indeed, the two partner should remain autonomous, independent persons and respect this for the other as well.
16. thanks for the information it was really helpful(^_^)
17. Successful Marriage... the fire and the water! A human innovation against it's own nature...that's what marriage is. You can at best compromise and say you love. It's a good way to convince yourself that you are living a pious life. We are such hypocrite brats! (BTW these are my objective opinions, not subjective.)