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How can I make my husband happy with our marriage?

My husband says that I have to be the one to make him happy with our marriage to make him a happier person. But how do I do that ? When I feel that to be happy with something or someone you have to be happy with yourself first. I just don't understand. Please help!

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was ur husband in love with somebody else before marriage ? which part of the world u r from ? INDIA ? If its INDIA then better don't file a false 498a on him and his family or any other cases. nowadays its become a ritual to file a lawsuit on husband and his family in INDIA. and if u r not from INDIA better be truthful to him and love him and keep checking him too DON"T USE GMAIL U CAN"T RECOVER UR ACCOUNT IF U FORGET UR PASSWORD
Marriage is work. I don't have all the right answers but I found it helpful to make sure that my husband knows that I appreciate him and want him around. I think that all people needed to feel wanted and needed. It is not always easy but I think that the most important thing in my marriage is to not become complacent. I am happier when he lets me know that he needs me and I think he is happier when he knows I need him too. It is way easier to just exist together than it is to make an effort to be happy.
what the hell is that anti 498 guy talking about!
In love, you cannot make someone happy. His happiness is not within your control, and it never will be. If he's not happy, he's the one who needs to reconsider his own place in the marriage. The best thing he could do is communicate with you about exactly what he doesn't like about the marriage, and you two can then try to resolve it as long as it's within reason. Do not change who you are to please him, because that's not love. You both need to be very strong in your own identity so you can come together and compromise. What he needs to realize is that there is no perfect marriage, and there are likely things that you're unhappy with in the marriage too. The marriage isn't all about him. A book I highly recommend is the 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. You and your husband might express love differently and this book can help you understand what each other's needs are better. You might be pouring your heart out into something to show him love, but he doesn't recognize it because he feels love differently than you give it. This book will help explain how it all works. Check the website too: http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ Best of luck!
It depends on what would make your husband happy. Basically, if man and woman love each other, just staying together makes them happy. But if he needs more, maybe he would need a cook, a maid, a friend or a lover. You need to ask him!
"My husband says that I have to be the one to make him happy with our marriage to make him a happier person." Your husband is not only wrong, he is dumb. Marriage is both of you. Only he can make himself happy.
You first tell him that it is not your responsibility to MAKE HIM HAPPY! And that he should not expect you to deliver his happiness to him on a platter he will only be setting himself up to fall, for you wouldn't be able to even if you could! Also he must understand that happiness does come from within therefore if he is not happy with himself, you will not be able to make him happy anyway.. You might also ask him if he really thinks that he is making you happy sometimes, you have to give in order to receive. If he is talking about sex then you have a different story here and you could look in to kama sutra and start from there. http://www.kama-sutra.cn/posit.htm Hope this helps and good luck!
It's a two-way street. He needs to love you, respect you, spend time with you, care for you, and honor you. You need to love him back, be there for him emotionally, and physically. Men love sex.
well, why is it your job to make him happy? i don't get it. people who are getting married, they both should be happy because finally, they're going to live together and spend the whole life together but if he's saying that, it sounds like he didn't love you and this marriage is something he has to do? i don't know, it just sounds like that. basically, having your lover with you and do everything you usually do with that person, should be the happiest thing you could feel. it's about his problem, ask him about this?
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