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How do I balance guy time and my girlfriend?

I am in a tough spot. For as long as I can remember, I have spent Sundays with my best friend. He has a serious girlfriend (5 years) and she has always been OK with it. But then I met a woman about 6 months ago. She's beautiful, funny, successful and she even helped me paint my house and replace a water heater with no complaints. We are both in our late 20s I could see marrying her. It is the first time I've felt this way about a woman. The problem is that my girlfriend and I only have weekends off. She works first shift and I work second shift. So we only get to see each other on weekends. So that only leaves Saturdays. Because Sunday is guy day. Recently she asked why we only get to see each other once a week and that she'd like to see me more. After I explained that Sundays were for guy time, she looked upset. She asked why everyone couldn't go out on Sundays - like my friend/his girlfriend and her. But my best friend wants it to be just us so he doesn't feel like a third wheel (his girlfriend works on Sunday). So the four of us usually hang out on Saturdays. I am not sure what to do. I don't want to flake on my life-long best friend. But I also don't want to lose my girlfriend. She's been cool when I skipped a weekend of seeing her because I went camping with the guys and she hasn't pushed on more time until now. But if I give her more time, I won't have any guy time either. My best friend works the same type of schedule she does - first shirt M-F. Any suggestions on how to make them both happy?

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1. That's a tough one dude and I feel for you because I've known my best friend for 13 years now and every Saturday night is guys night. My girlfriend hasn't said anything about it but I don't want to alienate either of them. Try a happy medium maybe twice a month with him and twice a month with her. That's the best I got. Best of luck.