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Should I stay in my relationship?

i really appreciate good advice!! Please help! Im 22yrs old, I recently graduated with a bachelors degree. I also own a house. I try to be the best go getter I can be and I’m building it all from very humble roots. my girlfriend of 2 years is 22 and works part time and goes to school for a associates degree, but she isnt sure what shes gonna do at all. she lives at home She is an extravert, fun, outgoing. Im an introvert, I like to work and be productive and I need time alone especially since I got this job. Before my job, it actually helped us complement each other and help balance each other out by being different I think. I think a lot of couples are that way?? [We have been a symbol to everyone for monogamy and how to be a happy couple. I feel in love with her because she is so happy, fun and positive. We are very exclusive to each other and have talked about marriage and kids and a family together. I got my first job our of college that is requiring a lot of my time and Its my dream job, or atleast I think it is. The job requires you to sacrifice a lot the first cpl yrs (60+ hrs) and afterwards you can make 6 digits if you make it. I want to do great things for myself and provide a better life for my family than I had growing up. ] Since my new job, work/ life balance has been challenging. she has been supportive for the most part. since I had my job our relationship has gone under a lot more pressure. I feel like she is incapable of 80% of most daily tasks and its frustrating. She wants to be young still and have fun, but I want to build a strong foundation for the rest of my life. She needs a lot of attention and is insecure all the time. She isn’t very confident which is frustrating too. I feel like it rubs off on me sometimes. Her dad does everything for her and I don’t think I want that kid of daddy daughter relationship. I want a strong powerful woman that is a companion at the same level, not a girl I need to do everything for. i feel like maybe we are holding each other back. She wants attention and have fun. and I want a career so that I don’t have to worry about it when Im older. Neither of us have dated a whole lot, especially me. I don’t think we even know what we are doing. Sometimes I feel like she holds me back from being aggressive and exploring and doing more things with my career and job. One reason this job is soo hard is because I didn’t even try to go do a 6 month training program because I felt like she wouldn’t be comfortable with me leaving for 6 months. But now the job is a lot harder because I dnt know what im doing. Iam I a workaholic that needs to slow down or do I just know what I want? Are we good for each other or should we take a break? Should we go on a break? Should we break up?

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1. If you can't make time for her because of your workaholic character and your excessive need for "alone time", you should break up. Wait until you settle down more.
2. First, kudos to you for knowing what you want out of life! Second this girl isn't on the same page as you. Her wanting to have fun is her being immature and her not knowing what she wants makes you guys extremely different. You are smart for wanting a strong foundation and you should go for it! Who's to say this girl will stick it out with you. And if you feel like she's holding you back that is a red flag to jump ship! You are young, but wanting a career now is crucial! Go for the 6 digits and find a girl equally ambitious, because the girl you have now shows signs of laziness.