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Is it wrong to always puts others happiness before your own?

Is it wrong to always put others happiness before your own? I always seem to give up what I want when others want that same thing. I never really noticed it until last year. I'm not sure what to do about this.

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It's a good trait.
It's not a bad thing, but you can't let people take advantage of you because some people will.
I used to be on the same boat. The key to having benefits both directions, you need to keep a good balance. It's always nice to be considerate and make others happy, but if you aren't happy with yourself, then there's a problem. You just need to let others take the time out of their days to make you happy as well. If something makes you upset, then don't allow that to happen. If it doesn't bother you much, then let that person have the turn. You should mostly be looking out for yourself though.
if you have become a door mat then yeah it can be wrong. door mats are not respected for their own worth and often find themselves on the bad end of a user relationship.
As all are selfish in the world, you should be selfish at least to keep your self healthy and fit, if not Greedy. If you want to help people, help them without expectations. Expectation brings unhappiness sometimes. Never overdo anything. Use your common sense and logic. Whatever you do let it be logical. Do anything without hurting yourself. Excess in anything is bad.
so long as what your doing to make the other people happy is not illegal or imoral or causing you great harm ie the pocket book or your health then most likely you are a very good person . by seeking to help others by putting other first you are living as Christ would have you do at least in part. that which you are doing in this matter would be pleasing to him. i myself do now and always will put the needs of others before mine. think of it if all people did this how would the people of earth be ? I suppose you will get many answers that say i am wrong and that your wrong to do that which you do. this is the time of me me me. trample on the fallen its fine time. you and i know its not i hope and pray you continue to keep up your desire to always be of help to others. to think of others before yourself. just so long as you balance this with the things i mentioned . perhaps even if you did give all you have to the help others and work at this to the point of death you would be a saint. i dont really know . i do know i would love to know you and to have you as a friend and as an example to all the people of earth
yes and no it all depends if it stings after a couple days then i'd say it was wrong . i say you can be giving to a point then you also need to seek happiness for your self or else it appears you don't value yourself . so take a chunk of happiness for yourself too. ok
If you're "giving up" what you want out of compassion for other people, then i don't see why this would bother you. If you're doing it just to be polite, then it would depend on the context; sometimes it's good to be polite while other times it's either unnecessary, or even rude. For the most part though, there's nothing "wrong" about it.
"I always seem to give up what I want when others want" Not a good thing, no. Might be an honorable trait, but not "good". The only time I would call this good is IF and only if those you always put before yourself practice the same as you. Too much of anything, including love, sharing and all the other positives is not healthy. Life is about balance. Give and take, share and receive etc. It is wonderful that you put others before yourself, but you must take into account hat you are somebody too and you are to get your share no matter what that share is at the time. Sometimes we have to put ourselves first OR we find ourselves asking the question in which you have here. We could later find ourselves resentful, unappreciated and disrespected for example. We could accidentally become a doormat to even those that do not realize they are taking advantage.
If that is what makes you happy. And if it isn't why do you do it? Perhaps sometimes we have to live with the things we do. That is definitely one of them. It could be that you already are full interiorily and don't have the need for so many things when others do. I too understand this and see many who have needs so much more than mine, like a hunger that needs more things so I just get out of the way and let them have what they need. My need so far has not been that much. Perhaps you are in the same boat. If not, you have to live with these type of decisions whether you are making a conscious choice or an unconscious one. If it is unconscious it would not be a bad idea to reflect and try to get at the reasons to see if they are mature and part of the way you are or are just some erroneous behaviors that do not really help you in the long run.
If you always do it,yes,it's bad. First,it enables others to take advantage of you and unfortunately most people are more or less selfish-even the ones closest to you. Human nature. Also,it shows that you are needy-some part of you thinks by giving up the things you want to others you will get them to like or approve of you. Unfortunately,this will often bring about a lack of respect from those same people-it's human nature to despise what is perceived as weakness. Better to strike a balance-pick and choose when to put the welfare of others before your own. Don't mistake selfishness for strength but recognize you,too,have a right to be happy and stick to your guns when it's time to fight for something that's important to you. You'll be a happier,more complete person.
The "spirit of selflessness" is good indeed. However, "enlightened self interest" sometimes finds self needing help, even in order to help others. Understanding Yourself, Mark Prophet, and For Couples Only, Shaunti Feldhahn, are helpful. Reviews at http://www.amazon.com
Remember the flight safety points: in case of emergency, first put your own oxygen mask AND THEN help the person sitting next to you.
Is it wrong to always puts others happiness before your own? ~~~ I don't know of 'wrong' other than that it's in the eye of the beholder. If you have no 'happiness', you have none to share. On the other hand, working for the happiness of others is doing so for 'Self!'! Like love... We find it in the eyes of others, but we are simply looking in the mirror. There are Hindu sects that advocate 'loving service' (Bhakti Yoga) as a path into the 'light'. They say that that is the most... desirable and functional path at this time in history. FYI. Besides, you have no choice but to be who/what you are, every unique moment of existence!!
Does that bring you happiness? if so, maybe you are doing it for your own satisfaction. my parents would sacrifice for there children, but that brought them more satisfaction then they would have received if they had not sacrificed.